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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Success – I have actually made my goal in acting, but now I’m surrounded with people that want a part of me >said Actor to friend in a reading

Actor speaking to friend: I am very disappointed in the fact that I am unable to enjoy my new success. I have finally gotten a good part on a TV show that’s successful and I have made a couple of movies and life seems to have lots of different opportunities in front of me. But which to take? I have an agent, a publicist and a company that represents me, I have a business manager, a CPA, a nutritionist, a personal assistant, a wardrobe specialist, a hair and makeup guy. I have a cook that comes in and prepares my food twice weekly, household help to clean my home and water my plants, I have a travel person, a voice and speaking coach, an old teacher that gives me reviews of my work and a family that loves me but thinks the acting is an awful life. It has taken me 6 years to get to this stage in my life, I went from small apartment living with no acting and part time jobs to where I am today. I am so busy I can hardly make myself sleep, my days off are spent doing PR for projects or in meetings with my management team. Now what, who do I listen to, who is really there to help me, or are they all there-just to take some of my hard earned money?

Friend to Actor – Both, there are always people that make their living off of others and their interests are usually tilted to their own income, not your income. They do want you to be successful because they make more money, but they do not look at you as a person that they represent as much as a person that makes money for them to gain a percentage income.  That leaves you in trouble. Here are some ideas to help you with your success:

  1. Get average people to help you as much as possible. Your business manager and other money people take education and experience to make them successful, not stars. So look for those professionals in another city than the one you are living and working in at this time. I would look to San Francisco for your money city. They will have a large accounting company that has lots of experience and you can find this through word of mouth or by doing some research on your own on the Internet. Let this company handle your income and the money decisions. They will then overview what your management and PR staff is doing. It means you have people on your side looking over you. They will not be in the loop and have loyalties to others in your acting community. That is important-they will look at you as any other successful client with ideas that are more based in reality not in LA LA land thinking.
  2. Know that no matter how upset you are you do not talk to your close personal group of workers. Your assistant, your hair person, your wardrobe stylist are there to guide you and make your life easier. You want them to do that by being kind and considerate, but not sharing your inner personal feelings, relationships and so on. They will not be long time loyal friends to you, they will be with you when you can afford them and need them when that time ends, they will leave and use the information you have given them to work against you. So stay private; it is not true that any PR or scandal is better than none. That is untruthful. You have to establish the point that you are a good person that acts. Not that you are a messed up person that is paid to act. Set your own standard of living high, talk to your family and long time friends or a faith based mentor, not to gossip prone employees. They may feel like your friends because you are around them all the time, but that is not a truth, they are hired by you – not paid friends.
  3. Have a modest apartment/condo in your LA area to live while you work but have a home out of the town to enjoy real life. I would think a drive of 60-90 minutes out of LA would bring you to a place that you could buy a private home in a nice neighborhood that has a view or on a lake/water. That way you can take your time off to wander around as a regular person, go shopping, go to the grocery store, the coffee shop and enjoy being with everyday people. That keeps life real for you. Once out of LA you can really recharge and see your life and work from eyes of reality, instead of a swirl of fame. Plus you can continue to get ideas for your acting by talking to and watching real people in a real town.
  4. Ask yourself what you need not what you want or what is accepted in your field. You may think that a certain watch will make you look “in” or that a certain nite club makes you popular. But the truth is that who you are is what brings you fame. You have to stay real and relevant. So, set a budget for yourself and ignore all the push for silly things and silly events. This makes you wise and the really successful professionals in entertainment are the ones that are wise and have long lasting careers.
  5. Find three organizations that fit your interests to volunteer with your time and efforts. If you have little free time, spend it helping those that you care about, not running around to events that get your picture in the papers. Be someone that can dedicate time, energy and money to three groups and that intense impact will find you on top of lists of people to watch.
  6. Each time you go to another set look around and find the true professionals on that set. Introduce yourself to the man that has been a successful camera man or light person in many TV or movie projects. Ask them questions, get them on your side, work hard to impress the director and read other works from the writers. Introduce yourself to the actors that are working well, not with fancy names, let people know you are a person that is interested in the business of entertainment, not a flash in the pan that has a hit TV show. Some day one of them may use your name for a project that could change your life. Be kind, be wise and be interested in those around you. Do not get hung up on being important, concentrate on your own work and honor others around you that do a good job. Thank you cards or small thoughtful gifts to those that you work with and then leave for another project is always very smart.
  7. Force yourself to read scripts not have others do it for you. You may find a gem in the pile. Learn how to read fast, or read the first middle and end to get the feeling for the piece. If you are stuck with a pile of scripts and no time find honest help. Get a librarian or a college English or drama teacher to read them and take notes on them for your review. They will have talents and thoughts that you will find helpful. Your professional people will look at scripts and projects as which will make you the most money, not which will help you learn and experience and become a better actor that will work for years. Your goal is not a flash in the pan. How many hit TV show stars or boy band singers have to sell their big homes just to have money 10 years down the line? Learn from them, stay in reality and keep looking towards your next job.
  8. Looking and acting successful is important and you do that with your mind, not your group of helpers around you. You do not need silly friends that mean nothing, you need to be reading scripts, writing things yourself, coming up with ideas for your talents and resting to restore your health. That is how success will stay around you.

Actor to Friend- So, I should not be afraid to really be picky about my assistants that are around me? I know so little about success, I just thought that these people have done so much for others success that I should follow their advice.

Friend to Actor– What people have they helped? How long have they been in business, how long are the actors and performers that they represent been in business and how financially well set are they? You see you have to look at acting like any other business, you have a small window of success and that income has to be invested well for you to take that money on to your later years when work will be harder to find. You are like a dancer or sportsperson, you have a window of opportunity and then it will be over. So do not look at your work as a hay day and just to have fun. See it as a gift of a great job that you have to do at your best so you can go on to another project.

You can do this, you can listen to opportunities that come to you and take time to think them over. If you need more insight you can come back to me and I can review it with you.

Long life and working with all of the talents you have is success…you have so much in front of you, so keep looking ahead. You are too creative to find yourself without work, you need to lift up those wings and learn to do all things, from acting to directing, to teaching and writing scripts or project ideas, from investing in a business owned by someone as hard working as you are to developing your name into a brand and enjoy the world open to you.

Actor to friend – I always get honest insight when I have readings with you, thank you for that. Its good to know I can talk to someone that has no ball in the game and is just thinking about me. Thank you, I look forward meeting with you in person next month on my trip up north. I told you about the friend that wants to have an in-person reading with you, too.

Friend to Actor – I am proud of what you have done and how you are taking time to keep your feet on the ground even when you have so much success around you. I look forward to our next time together.

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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Nothing is Working Out >said Dan to friend in a reading

I had a relationship and was ready for a commitment and she broke it off. I had long time friend that simply was not honorable to me. I wanted to find a new job and I am still unemployed. I moved to a new area and now I have to return to my home area to find work. I used a plan of action, positive motivation and worked the plan. I feel hurt and defeated. Why did it all fall apart?

Friend to Dan> You know going over and over your choices is pointless. You have taken enough time in worry over it all. Let’s do what we can do and regroup and get it right this time. Lets leave it behind as you drive away and have a smile on your face for the new start – 

  1. You left a very sad marriage that was not working and you began to find your own self again. You found a person that you enjoyed and her children that you found fun and charming. You got along, learned to talk things over and you even went so far as to start to think about making another commitment. If you take it from a higher view, you can see how far you have come in your growth. You have learned what does work and does not work. You have become comfortable being on your own and now you are prepared to sort through people and find a person that hits all of your needs and at the same time know how to give them support and caring back. Good Job!
  2. You made a big investment decision in your life on the advise of along time friend. That investment did not pay off, but even more important your friend did not stand by your side during the ride. That was a very hurtful event and I understand that hurt. Once again, you stood tall, you followed the rules, you stayed loyal and you were and are a good friend. Your hurt is the grief of losing a life long friendship and those are worth greiving over.  You win – he doesn’t.
  3. You have perfectly good skills for the job market and you have not been successful in gaining a job. You have filled out forms, taken classes, talked to new people about work, keep a weekly log of your job hunt. I see that as outstanding work. The fact that you have not found a job where you are and you feel you have to return to a home base area where work is more plentifull is not your failure it is your wise move.
  4. You feel you are being forced to do work that you do not want to do and you need to make a change. That is true but your developed skills will carry you through for the next year or two until the job market refreshes. You can continue to look for a job in different fields and now you know how to look, you know how to use the computer, you have new skills and you have nothing to stop you from growth. Your age may have been a hurdle before, but now you are updated with new skills and you can make a change much easier than ever before. Good steps of growth on your part!
  5. You have had so many health challenges that you are in debt and feel totally helpless with no income but employment benifits. You have decided to file for bankruptcy and you feel that will lift you up to begin again with a new job after your move back to your home area. I think your steps to keep your creditors in line and informed have been well done and now the legal reboot will allow you to see new release in your spirit and allow your health to continue to strengthen.
  6. Your long hours of reading, journal, doing to do lists, motivation study and giving back in support of your friendships has done nothing but strenghten you. You see the world in a larger view, you feel the right and wrong of life in a more realistic eye, you have your own agenda in order and that makes your life more centered. It may feel like failure to you, but to me, it is more than success, it’s growth.

There are times when taking a path that is new and purposely choosing to learn means the way is really rough and hard. It has been that for you as well as lonely. But you have made the journey with honor, you have learned so much along the way. The man that hated his life, his job, his wife, his living area, his health and his pathway – that man has left the room. He is gone. Instead of seeing your last three years as failures take another look – you have left something behind, you left your old you back there-

You are now a new person;

  • You know what kind of person you want to commitment to and how to talk to them and make decisions that are dual not one sided. You know they must have to have their own demons worked out and be ready to grow. You are ready to give, but you know you must demand respect and your own behalf of the relationship in return. You know the age range and personality that is right for you and you will wait to find her, instead of settling on anyone at the door of life.
  • You know that children are not something to avoid but to enjoy and find fun to be around on a full time basis. That you do have a father side to your personality and you enjoy sharing it. you have history and stories to share to others and you find children absorb those things and make them theirs. It is an excitement to see you can enhance the life of another with your love and attention.
  • You know that work is not something to be done without proper rest and mental adjustment. That working with others takes patience and good polite behavior so you can be a part of a team, not always work alone. That your skills and life of experience in many things, mean you can do many different jobs not just one.
  •  You have found that friends do not know all – that they can not always have your own best interest in their mind. That they are to be enjoyed and remain special, but that your own ideas and decisions have to be based in your mind and heart. Friends are to enjoy and give to, but true friends give back. Being with a friend means you are happy when they leave you, not upset and sad. Giving should be equal in heart not overloaded on one side of the friendship or another.
  • You learned that saying NO is important to learn. You have had to say it more in the last few years than ever before, but each time you do you get stronger. No to bad behavior in your own life and No to others who take advantage of you. No is now a part of who you are.
  • You now know that your working skills are at a high level and you have no reason to tell yourself jobless means skill-less. That is not true, you are simply going to a new area to find work that you can do easily for good money. It is your choice for a less stressful life, and that is always a good choice.
  • You now know that your future means a new type of work, so your new computer skills, people skills and review of life will help guide you to a new type of job that you can do in your mature years. You love to be busy and working is important to your mental health.
  • You now know that you can live on your own, but you choose to be surrounded by friends. Your life can not be tucked away for days or nights at a time. So, once you get yourself working again, you can spread your wings on your days off and go and see friends, visit those that need you in care centers, and develop your spiritual side to fill you.
  • Most of all you have found that making a decision to move from one place to another is not a failure, it is a choice. It is based on your review of what is available for your best interest and then making a move on that information. At any time you can move again, and make another change, life does not have to be spent inside a 100 miles circle, it needs to grow legs and expand.
  • Your skills with reading ideas, journaling, doing motivation and listening to your own heart now has you on a self guidance course. That is the best way to live – to bud an idea, then review it, learn about it, get quiet and pray over it and then to walk the walk to make it real. Those are the steps and you will do them where ever you are living and who ever you are loving. You have won the battle, you are a new you…stronger and more knowing.

Often goals are not met and it’s only natural to think you failed. But when you take time to review it you can see that your ideas were not wrong, nor were your actions – the timing was just off. You just need to tweek the idea again and start the process all over. That is what life is about, how you handle the daily challenges with spirit and your own mind and then begin again. I am proud of your efforts

Begin again – friend

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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

ESCAPE Friend in phone reading with client: I understand you feel totally terrified. You have no money, no job, you have no place to live and you have left the relationship you thought would make you happy. So, just know I understand that every single step you have taken is scary and you have no other alternative but to make all of these changes. You are the brave one, you are the one to celebrate as FREE – you have chosen loving yourself over losing yourself – I am very pleased with your actions and proud of you.

  1. First, you have to find a place to live. I would march right up to the nearest church and ask them for their community outreach program to help you. Even if it is one night’s rest in the church, you will be able to sleep and get rest. They will help you, they are there to help you. Do not be afraid to ask for help, that is what people have been giving their Sunday collections toward. You will get a connection for emergency money for food and a place to live.
  2. There are special shelters for those that have fear from abuse, you need to ask about them and have someone take you there. Do not wander around where you can be seen – if you are in danger, ask others to help you out of danger.
  3. Then the next step is to go to the Department of Human Resources in your area and get bus passes, food coupons, and direction with job placement. They will give you a listing and ask them as many questions as you can. You will need to have a mail box for most of your information coming to you. I would ask at the church or the shelter if you can use that address for a month for a mail box – so you can get your help and then you will be in a new place to live and you can use your own address.
  4. Just stand in line and stand up straight and tell them your story as you know it to be true. There is nothing you have done to be ashamed of – you have just had things happen that now have to be corrected. The staff at these places are trained to help you, they may be over worked so be very patient and always smile and say thank you for your time. That is how you get helped before others, you show them you appreciate their care, not act like you deserve the help.
  5. Now the hardest thing is to begin to think of yourself as already in your new home, in your new job and in your new life. You have to sit and wait in lines at these places, so just rest and think about your future. What type of apartment you want to have around you. Picture the windows bringing in light, the paint all clean and the kitchen all bright. Picture nice furniture in the place with a special chair for you to use at night. Then picture a job place, busy, interesting, nice people to work along side of and the boss welcoming you into the job. Keep your mind focused on success even if all around you says failure – you have to think success.
  6. Force out the old negative bad thoughts, the worry over the past, the fear over the physical violence – everytime you catch yourself in worry – think about that new apartment, what color will you paint it, what kind of furniture will you fill it with and what will be in your cupboards or closets. Force your mind to think positive and fruitful thoughts…keep on the future, make your mind work in a way that will bring good things into your life, not repeat old ways of sadness.
  7. Think of three things that you are going to do for yourself when you get your job. A. buy a new purse, B. buy bananas just for you C. pick up a green plant at the store to enjoy. This is your life, what are your own three things to look forward to bringing into your life?
  8. Write down notes, take note of the names of people that help you and are kind, you can call them back if you get into a problem or have a question. Write down your personal information in a good easy to read printing. You do not want to have anyone skip over you because your form was not filled out.
  9. Remember, you are not at this point because you did any thing wrong, you are here because you are choosing a new life and that’s a good thing that has an element of excitement in it. Yes, it is scary, but Yes it is exciting. Keeping safe, if you need a shelter..you have to admit you are in trouble and you need a haven to be safe. Just as you would reach down and pick up a small kitten in the pathway of a large charging dog…so will others reach over and guide you to a shelter that is protected from anyone that wants to do you harm.

Your mind is your key…your mind, not your body. You have to think; I have a new job, I have a new home, I am safe and I am ready to begin this new life. No matter what you age, or how you look, or how you talk, you have to think NEW LIFE. You have to repeat it over and over and even when you are confronted with fear, you have to repeat it and believe it. Others will help you, but you have to ask. This is not the time to be the independent uppity lady who knows it all – this is the time, when you simply are honest about where you are and ask to be guided to places that can give you assistance.

To be brave enough to leave an uncomfortable place that still gave you a home, food and a place to belong – that was very hard to do. You have already taken those steps. The rest of your journey is just a journey. If you take it wisely, the journey will find an ending that gives you peace and your own life back again. No more living through another’s life…now you will have your own.

Now remember, do not allow yourself to think, I haven’t worked in a long time I don’t know what kind of a job I could get! NO, you have to think about how the job is going to make you feel…not what kind of job…how it will make you feel. I have a good job with a paycheck, I go to work with nice people, I stay busy and feel good about my work and I come home and can afford an apartment and food and I am safe. That is how you think about the job, not in terms of fear, but in terms of being content and happy to go to work, again!

Stop thinking about how you look, if you are to thin or too heavy, or have no clothes no one cares about those things but you. No one sees that but you, you have to force yourself to see your own loving body in a healthy light with new, clean clothing and know you are going to be health and well and serve your new life with joy, no fear. (End of shared reading)

If you would like to share your life challenges with Friend with one of his personal readings, just read the about pages and then contact francy. Thank you for your reading time. Share this with someone that might be facing a hard time – francy

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Zapping Energy – Friend’s Daily Offering; On zapping energy from others and not knowing you do it. This is edited from many Channeled readings with Friend since 1983 – details and names held for privacy.

Are you finding you have not heard from close friends lately? Do you find that when you are out and about others tend to stand back from you, or sit away from you? Are you giving others your thoughts and ideas and nothing seems to be coming back to you from them? Do you feel family or friends are not paying as much attention to their relationship with you, as you are to them? Are you not getting attention at work, or having negative job interviews?

Some times, just when you feel that you are the stand up guy and you are doing so much for others – there is a quiet under current of your feeling that you do not get what you deserve or the attention that you enjoy. In your mind you tend to think, “They don’t love me, or like me, or care about me.” – Is that true?

Client to Friend during Channeled Phone Reading:I have been feeling left out of things for quite some time now. I attend a family function and find siblings that do not spend time talking to me. I go out after work with co-workers and they tend to ignor me, they are pleasant enough, just not interactive. I try to do things for others and I do not understand why others do not respond with friendship towards me.

Friend to Client: I know that you do good things for others. I’m thinking of how you helped your neighbor recently with his car and that was kind and giving and no money was exchanged, just you giving to him. So, the idea of your giving is there but I think it may be lost some where behind other things in your life. You want others to see you as the friendly, giving and loyal person you are, not a person that gives off negative feelings.

Client to Friend in Channeled Phone Reading: I don’t understand lost, what is lost? I helped the neighbor, I watched my sister’s kids last week and she arrived took them home with out even staying to visit. I finished a big report at work that was really to be done by two other people but they were swamped and so I did the work and they did thank me, but they didn’t buy me coffee or chat about the report at all. It ‘s like I’m not there – I’m being ignored.

Friend to Client:I don’t think that’s it at all – I think it may be just the opposite. You see you have been very down in your emotions for a long time. You are still upset over your relationship break-up and that was almost two years ago. It has changed you, you have gotten yourself in such a down mode and so involved with overall sadness that your energy level is really dipping. You have had quite a few colds and allergy attacks lately and that’s unusual for you, you usually have a high tolerance to illness. You have withdrawn from your usual hobbies, you rarely hike, do not spend time on the yard – just mow the grass and you no longer even get your motorcycle out of the garage to clean – let alone ride, is this not the case?

Client to Friend: Yes, that is true, I just feel tired all the time. Maybe there’s something wrong with me physically? Should I get a check up?

Friend to  Client:  I do not think it’s physical in that way, I think what has happened is that you are so low in your emotions that you are carrying around a dark cloud over your head. Do you understand what I mean by that? You certainly do not want this low energy to come across in a job review, or hiring, or just that your boss sees you as tired.

Client to Friend: Well, I suppose so, it has been a long time since I have done anything fun, but that’s because my friends just do not seem to want to be with me any more.

Friend to Client:I’m sure that’s how you see it. But I think what’s happening is that when you are out and about and you are feeling a bit  low and tired, you tend to be drawn to high energy people. The most productive people in the office were so busy that you gave them a hand with their project that was due. That is a kind thing, but you were drawn to them with their energy. When you were around them you felt good, excited to be around high energy people. The same with your family members. The problem is that when you are around them, you are feeling their energy and it makes you feel good…so you actually take their energy. I know it may seem strange. But that is the reason that they do not stay in close to you…they feel you drawing from their energy when they’re around you -they walk away tired, frustrated, or confused. You become someone that does not make them feel good to be around. Now, I did not say you did something nasty to them, they just get an inner pull that you’re not giving them energy back, your interaction is not pleasant for them. So they retreat. If asked they would never say they disliked you in any way.

Client to Friend:You know I have to tell you something odd. My niece told me last week that I made her tired. She’s only five so I thought that was a strange thing to say, but she is a very sweet little thing and I wondered where that came from.

Friend to Client:Energy is a strange thing. You have it, but you don’t wear it on the outside of your clothes so it’s hard thing to check on its level. What you can check is how you feel. Lately- that has been down, tired and now rejected by friends. Since there is nothing about you that is bad or nasty, you are a nice person…the energy level thing is very important to look at. You can not tell if this is really something that’s true for you or not – so let’s just go over some things for you to try – so you can bring your own energy up instead of gleaning energy from others when you are around them.

  • In the morning when you wake up. First thing, stand up and stretch. Just a stretch like a cat would do…nice and tall. Stretch yourself out and tell yourself that you have had a good night’s rest and you are ready for the day. (even if you feel tired, tell yourself you have had a good night’s rest)
  • Do your morning toilet, shower and make sure you eat a meal. Now if you find eating is hard, then be prepared. Buy food that can be heated quickly and eaten, like frozen quiches, or frozen pancakes. Fast and easy, but real food that will fill you up and give you energy for the morning, not just coffee.
  • Before you leave for the day….take three deep breathes and feel the oxygen pulled up in your lungs and into your brain. Then take off and do what ever you do during the day.
  • Sit something on your desk at work that draws people over to you. How about a jar of candy..that will pull folks over to take a piece. You keep it filled for a while and when they come over, just look up and say, “Hi John, have a good day.” Turn around and continue to do your work. What you have done is given John a candy and a positive response to his visit with you. You have taken nothing from him. He leaves feeling good about you.
  • If you feel tired around 11ish, then you know you have a fall in energy. Since that is not a good thing for you, since you have a problem with energy overall…then get up from the office area and walk and take in a few deep breaths. Have an energy drink or bar in your office drawer to give you power to continue on until lunch. Then at lunch you will have energy on a higher level, you can invite another worker and when you go out, you are not dragging. Your energy is still in a good place and you’re able to have a higher level conversation, eat good things and leave your friend feeling he has had a nice time, not time with a person that pulled him down.
  • Repeat the action in the mid-afternoon. Another walk around the office or the outside of the building, a few good deep breaths, an energy bar or drink and then back to work to have a renewed boost of energy.
  • Home to meal that is good for you, with all the different type of foods. I you are living alone, then buy food that can easily be heated and give you good meals, do not stop off and get garbage food, it will just pull on your energy and give you nothing in return.
  • Two nights a week, you will be doing something you enjoy doing. It is up to you, you can take your motorcycle out of the garage and go and visit family or friends, stay for a short time and then leave before you get to tired and start to pull on them for energy. This will increase your energy by doing things that bring you pleasure, instead of staying home and worrying about live. You are taking charge and others will start to feel it -as pleasant to be around you.
  • Do something new, take a class in something fun at the local community college: Latin dancing, computer sciences, property investment, anything that will give you a feeling of learning and increase your excitement and energy level. Something new for you to talk about to friends and family. Something new for you to think about. Maybe even new people to meet and enjoy!
  • Keep your mind on the goal – of rising your energy level and decreasing your low emotional levels. Eat good food, breath deeply, get some exercise, exercise your brain with new ideas and start to give to others in small ways with no strings attached from you. I think that you are going to find it will slowly turn your mind around to a better place and you will interact with others in a stronger and more positive way.

Often Friend finds that people come to him with ideas and questions on life issues and do not realize that their problems stem from small underlying troubles. Easier things to change than the big problem that’s effecting them. It’s always hard to get the client to see…that the small changes, can make such a big effect on the big challenges in their life. But every time, they trust in Friend and do the homework, no matter how strange it seems at the time – a change does happen for the betterment of their life. Please do read about Friend and Francy and call in for a private phone reading on your own personal issues or business soon. Thank you, francy

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Confusion – Friend’s Daily Offering; On removing Confusion on life choices and bring them into clarity
 
 There are so many words, actions, responsibilities and time constraints coming from all sides of your life, to add upset and confusion over an unexpected incident is totally understandable. Reacting to that incident is now your choice. You must learn to react to a negative situation slowly with calm, let it flow over you and let it unfold in front of you before you react. Keep your anger, fear or confusion to yourself and just let the energy of the situation surround you. Know that your own inner strength will keep you safe and allow the people around you to act out their frustrations or anger. As soon as you can, remove yourself from the situation.

Give yourself private time to replay the incident or situation in your mind as you lift yourself up and away from it. View it as if it were happening to another. See if you played a part in the incident or if you were just a viewer. Think it over; do not make a statement on your own behalf or for the other person. Think it over; replay the incident/situation again in your mind’s eye. See if you heard the words and actions in correct order. When you have done your work on this issue and you feel you have put it into its own place, then allow yourself to feel.

Is it anger, it is disappointment, is it sadness, is it doubt? Take a few moments of quiet and talk it through in your mind to yourself. Lay down the ideas you have – what did you do to begin the incident, did you add to the fire, did you simply stand and become a part of it, or did you get swept up in someone else’s negative energy? Now that you have gone over it in your mind – release it.

To do that-  take three deep breaths and then just blow out the confusion and let it dissipate. If the situation made you uncomfortable, you know you will not repeat the action you took nor will you encourage the actions that others showed to you. You will look at the incident as a negative action that you do not intend to allow around you again.

Make a list; actually write down three things that will alert you to the same behavior in yourself or others in the future. These three things will then be the keys to avoid. If you see them coming into your life again, you will walk away and make serious changes to remove the negative actions before they manifest into a repeated situation.

My example to you may be: 1/ your day was very stressed and you were down in energy 2/the communication between you and another was just not successful and you both interpreted words in the wrong way 3/the other person was on a short fuse of temper and you may have sparked it with your body language or words. Learning these or other actions that were taken before the incident, means you can make changes. Your personal energy must be stronger and if you need to take more breaks or eat, drink or nap than that is what you have to do during your busiest days. You have to work on your communications skills or learn to read others when they do not understand you and give it a break.  Be aware that others have days filled with just as much, if not more, stress than your own. Or they have a special emotional or physical challenge that is pushing them into negative energy.  Read those things and do not judge, just take note not to allow the combination of them to mix and explode into a situation in the future.

Since you are unable to change the past, or change others there is only the future and your own actions. If you took a neutral stance during the situation, you did not respond or entered into the negative energy – that was a strong position to take. You then removed yourself from the negative energy and have taken time to review the situation again in your mind. Showing self honesty of the review as if you were a neutral self-judge – you have pulled up and away and taken a look at your actions and those of others with a third person’s view. You have taken your deep breaths to release the confusion. You have written down three key things that will signal the oncoming of a similar incident in the future and how to avoid it. Now, you have to do the hardest thing, you have to refocus your mind to a new thought pattern and let this one fade. In order to be productive, you have to learn to experience, review and release. It’s now time to release and move on leaving the negative energy and feelings of confusion behind.

This is a lesson that is very hard to do and really takes repeated practice to perfect. But once you start to do this with little and large incidents that upset and confuse you in your life – you will see that they will not be repeated. They will diminish because you take note of the cause and then you empower yourself to move forward to a new thought and action so your future is in your own control.

To achieve a circle of comfort and positive actions around you at all times is something that has to be practiced to succeed. But once you have the steps in place and you have experienced the change of negative to positive thought patterns – you will find your life changing dramatically.  

The easy life choice is to react to a negative situation or person with your verbal skills and debate and argue with them. To inflame the situation and make your own thoughts on the matter the most important heard that day. To walk away knowing you were right  – and they – wrong.

The hard life choice is to restrain yourself from reacting, to make your involvement nonexistent and allow the incident to work its way out to nothing. Being a controlled student of metaphysics is always challenging are you up to the challenge? Do you really think you can walk and experience the path, or just talk about it?

The most successful people in all walks of their lives are the ones that are true to their own actions and not afraid to review and change those actions and their forward direction for the better of all. 

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