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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Nothing is Working Out >said Dan to friend in a reading

I had a relationship and was ready for a commitment and she broke it off. I had long time friend that simply was not honorable to me. I wanted to find a new job and I am still unemployed. I moved to a new area and now I have to return to my home area to find work. I used a plan of action, positive motivation and worked the plan. I feel hurt and defeated. Why did it all fall apart?

Friend to Dan> You know going over and over your choices is pointless. You have taken enough time in worry over it all. Let’s do what we can do and regroup and get it right this time. Lets leave it behind as you drive away and have a smile on your face for the new start – 

  1. You left a very sad marriage that was not working and you began to find your own self again. You found a person that you enjoyed and her children that you found fun and charming. You got along, learned to talk things over and you even went so far as to start to think about making another commitment. If you take it from a higher view, you can see how far you have come in your growth. You have learned what does work and does not work. You have become comfortable being on your own and now you are prepared to sort through people and find a person that hits all of your needs and at the same time know how to give them support and caring back. Good Job!
  2. You made a big investment decision in your life on the advise of along time friend. That investment did not pay off, but even more important your friend did not stand by your side during the ride. That was a very hurtful event and I understand that hurt. Once again, you stood tall, you followed the rules, you stayed loyal and you were and are a good friend. Your hurt is the grief of losing a life long friendship and those are worth greiving over.  You win – he doesn’t.
  3. You have perfectly good skills for the job market and you have not been successful in gaining a job. You have filled out forms, taken classes, talked to new people about work, keep a weekly log of your job hunt. I see that as outstanding work. The fact that you have not found a job where you are and you feel you have to return to a home base area where work is more plentifull is not your failure it is your wise move.
  4. You feel you are being forced to do work that you do not want to do and you need to make a change. That is true but your developed skills will carry you through for the next year or two until the job market refreshes. You can continue to look for a job in different fields and now you know how to look, you know how to use the computer, you have new skills and you have nothing to stop you from growth. Your age may have been a hurdle before, but now you are updated with new skills and you can make a change much easier than ever before. Good steps of growth on your part!
  5. You have had so many health challenges that you are in debt and feel totally helpless with no income but employment benifits. You have decided to file for bankruptcy and you feel that will lift you up to begin again with a new job after your move back to your home area. I think your steps to keep your creditors in line and informed have been well done and now the legal reboot will allow you to see new release in your spirit and allow your health to continue to strengthen.
  6. Your long hours of reading, journal, doing to do lists, motivation study and giving back in support of your friendships has done nothing but strenghten you. You see the world in a larger view, you feel the right and wrong of life in a more realistic eye, you have your own agenda in order and that makes your life more centered. It may feel like failure to you, but to me, it is more than success, it’s growth.

There are times when taking a path that is new and purposely choosing to learn means the way is really rough and hard. It has been that for you as well as lonely. But you have made the journey with honor, you have learned so much along the way. The man that hated his life, his job, his wife, his living area, his health and his pathway – that man has left the room. He is gone. Instead of seeing your last three years as failures take another look – you have left something behind, you left your old you back there-

You are now a new person;

  • You know what kind of person you want to commitment to and how to talk to them and make decisions that are dual not one sided. You know they must have to have their own demons worked out and be ready to grow. You are ready to give, but you know you must demand respect and your own behalf of the relationship in return. You know the age range and personality that is right for you and you will wait to find her, instead of settling on anyone at the door of life.
  • You know that children are not something to avoid but to enjoy and find fun to be around on a full time basis. That you do have a father side to your personality and you enjoy sharing it. you have history and stories to share to others and you find children absorb those things and make them theirs. It is an excitement to see you can enhance the life of another with your love and attention.
  • You know that work is not something to be done without proper rest and mental adjustment. That working with others takes patience and good polite behavior so you can be a part of a team, not always work alone. That your skills and life of experience in many things, mean you can do many different jobs not just one.
  •  You have found that friends do not know all – that they can not always have your own best interest in their mind. That they are to be enjoyed and remain special, but that your own ideas and decisions have to be based in your mind and heart. Friends are to enjoy and give to, but true friends give back. Being with a friend means you are happy when they leave you, not upset and sad. Giving should be equal in heart not overloaded on one side of the friendship or another.
  • You learned that saying NO is important to learn. You have had to say it more in the last few years than ever before, but each time you do you get stronger. No to bad behavior in your own life and No to others who take advantage of you. No is now a part of who you are.
  • You now know that your working skills are at a high level and you have no reason to tell yourself jobless means skill-less. That is not true, you are simply going to a new area to find work that you can do easily for good money. It is your choice for a less stressful life, and that is always a good choice.
  • You now know that your future means a new type of work, so your new computer skills, people skills and review of life will help guide you to a new type of job that you can do in your mature years. You love to be busy and working is important to your mental health.
  • You now know that you can live on your own, but you choose to be surrounded by friends. Your life can not be tucked away for days or nights at a time. So, once you get yourself working again, you can spread your wings on your days off and go and see friends, visit those that need you in care centers, and develop your spiritual side to fill you.
  • Most of all you have found that making a decision to move from one place to another is not a failure, it is a choice. It is based on your review of what is available for your best interest and then making a move on that information. At any time you can move again, and make another change, life does not have to be spent inside a 100 miles circle, it needs to grow legs and expand.
  • Your skills with reading ideas, journaling, doing motivation and listening to your own heart now has you on a self guidance course. That is the best way to live – to bud an idea, then review it, learn about it, get quiet and pray over it and then to walk the walk to make it real. Those are the steps and you will do them where ever you are living and who ever you are loving. You have won the battle, you are a new you…stronger and more knowing.

Often goals are not met and it’s only natural to think you failed. But when you take time to review it you can see that your ideas were not wrong, nor were your actions – the timing was just off. You just need to tweek the idea again and start the process all over. That is what life is about, how you handle the daily challenges with spirit and your own mind and then begin again. I am proud of your efforts

Begin again – friend

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