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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Nothing is Working Out >said Dan to friend in a reading

I had a relationship and was ready for a commitment and she broke it off. I had long time friend that simply was not honorable to me. I wanted to find a new job and I am still unemployed. I moved to a new area and now I have to return to my home area to find work. I used a plan of action, positive motivation and worked the plan. I feel hurt and defeated. Why did it all fall apart?

Friend to Dan> You know going over and over your choices is pointless. You have taken enough time in worry over it all. Let’s do what we can do and regroup and get it right this time. Lets leave it behind as you drive away and have a smile on your face for the new start – 

  1. You left a very sad marriage that was not working and you began to find your own self again. You found a person that you enjoyed and her children that you found fun and charming. You got along, learned to talk things over and you even went so far as to start to think about making another commitment. If you take it from a higher view, you can see how far you have come in your growth. You have learned what does work and does not work. You have become comfortable being on your own and now you are prepared to sort through people and find a person that hits all of your needs and at the same time know how to give them support and caring back. Good Job!
  2. You made a big investment decision in your life on the advise of along time friend. That investment did not pay off, but even more important your friend did not stand by your side during the ride. That was a very hurtful event and I understand that hurt. Once again, you stood tall, you followed the rules, you stayed loyal and you were and are a good friend. Your hurt is the grief of losing a life long friendship and those are worth greiving over.  You win – he doesn’t.
  3. You have perfectly good skills for the job market and you have not been successful in gaining a job. You have filled out forms, taken classes, talked to new people about work, keep a weekly log of your job hunt. I see that as outstanding work. The fact that you have not found a job where you are and you feel you have to return to a home base area where work is more plentifull is not your failure it is your wise move.
  4. You feel you are being forced to do work that you do not want to do and you need to make a change. That is true but your developed skills will carry you through for the next year or two until the job market refreshes. You can continue to look for a job in different fields and now you know how to look, you know how to use the computer, you have new skills and you have nothing to stop you from growth. Your age may have been a hurdle before, but now you are updated with new skills and you can make a change much easier than ever before. Good steps of growth on your part!
  5. You have had so many health challenges that you are in debt and feel totally helpless with no income but employment benifits. You have decided to file for bankruptcy and you feel that will lift you up to begin again with a new job after your move back to your home area. I think your steps to keep your creditors in line and informed have been well done and now the legal reboot will allow you to see new release in your spirit and allow your health to continue to strengthen.
  6. Your long hours of reading, journal, doing to do lists, motivation study and giving back in support of your friendships has done nothing but strenghten you. You see the world in a larger view, you feel the right and wrong of life in a more realistic eye, you have your own agenda in order and that makes your life more centered. It may feel like failure to you, but to me, it is more than success, it’s growth.

There are times when taking a path that is new and purposely choosing to learn means the way is really rough and hard. It has been that for you as well as lonely. But you have made the journey with honor, you have learned so much along the way. The man that hated his life, his job, his wife, his living area, his health and his pathway – that man has left the room. He is gone. Instead of seeing your last three years as failures take another look – you have left something behind, you left your old you back there-

You are now a new person;

  • You know what kind of person you want to commitment to and how to talk to them and make decisions that are dual not one sided. You know they must have to have their own demons worked out and be ready to grow. You are ready to give, but you know you must demand respect and your own behalf of the relationship in return. You know the age range and personality that is right for you and you will wait to find her, instead of settling on anyone at the door of life.
  • You know that children are not something to avoid but to enjoy and find fun to be around on a full time basis. That you do have a father side to your personality and you enjoy sharing it. you have history and stories to share to others and you find children absorb those things and make them theirs. It is an excitement to see you can enhance the life of another with your love and attention.
  • You know that work is not something to be done without proper rest and mental adjustment. That working with others takes patience and good polite behavior so you can be a part of a team, not always work alone. That your skills and life of experience in many things, mean you can do many different jobs not just one.
  •  You have found that friends do not know all – that they can not always have your own best interest in their mind. That they are to be enjoyed and remain special, but that your own ideas and decisions have to be based in your mind and heart. Friends are to enjoy and give to, but true friends give back. Being with a friend means you are happy when they leave you, not upset and sad. Giving should be equal in heart not overloaded on one side of the friendship or another.
  • You learned that saying NO is important to learn. You have had to say it more in the last few years than ever before, but each time you do you get stronger. No to bad behavior in your own life and No to others who take advantage of you. No is now a part of who you are.
  • You now know that your working skills are at a high level and you have no reason to tell yourself jobless means skill-less. That is not true, you are simply going to a new area to find work that you can do easily for good money. It is your choice for a less stressful life, and that is always a good choice.
  • You now know that your future means a new type of work, so your new computer skills, people skills and review of life will help guide you to a new type of job that you can do in your mature years. You love to be busy and working is important to your mental health.
  • You now know that you can live on your own, but you choose to be surrounded by friends. Your life can not be tucked away for days or nights at a time. So, once you get yourself working again, you can spread your wings on your days off and go and see friends, visit those that need you in care centers, and develop your spiritual side to fill you.
  • Most of all you have found that making a decision to move from one place to another is not a failure, it is a choice. It is based on your review of what is available for your best interest and then making a move on that information. At any time you can move again, and make another change, life does not have to be spent inside a 100 miles circle, it needs to grow legs and expand.
  • Your skills with reading ideas, journaling, doing motivation and listening to your own heart now has you on a self guidance course. That is the best way to live – to bud an idea, then review it, learn about it, get quiet and pray over it and then to walk the walk to make it real. Those are the steps and you will do them where ever you are living and who ever you are loving. You have won the battle, you are a new you…stronger and more knowing.

Often goals are not met and it’s only natural to think you failed. But when you take time to review it you can see that your ideas were not wrong, nor were your actions – the timing was just off. You just need to tweek the idea again and start the process all over. That is what life is about, how you handle the daily challenges with spirit and your own mind and then begin again. I am proud of your efforts

Begin again – friend

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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

ESCAPE Friend in phone reading with client: I understand you feel totally terrified. You have no money, no job, you have no place to live and you have left the relationship you thought would make you happy. So, just know I understand that every single step you have taken is scary and you have no other alternative but to make all of these changes. You are the brave one, you are the one to celebrate as FREE – you have chosen loving yourself over losing yourself – I am very pleased with your actions and proud of you.

  1. First, you have to find a place to live. I would march right up to the nearest church and ask them for their community outreach program to help you. Even if it is one night’s rest in the church, you will be able to sleep and get rest. They will help you, they are there to help you. Do not be afraid to ask for help, that is what people have been giving their Sunday collections toward. You will get a connection for emergency money for food and a place to live.
  2. There are special shelters for those that have fear from abuse, you need to ask about them and have someone take you there. Do not wander around where you can be seen – if you are in danger, ask others to help you out of danger.
  3. Then the next step is to go to the Department of Human Resources in your area and get bus passes, food coupons, and direction with job placement. They will give you a listing and ask them as many questions as you can. You will need to have a mail box for most of your information coming to you. I would ask at the church or the shelter if you can use that address for a month for a mail box – so you can get your help and then you will be in a new place to live and you can use your own address.
  4. Just stand in line and stand up straight and tell them your story as you know it to be true. There is nothing you have done to be ashamed of – you have just had things happen that now have to be corrected. The staff at these places are trained to help you, they may be over worked so be very patient and always smile and say thank you for your time. That is how you get helped before others, you show them you appreciate their care, not act like you deserve the help.
  5. Now the hardest thing is to begin to think of yourself as already in your new home, in your new job and in your new life. You have to sit and wait in lines at these places, so just rest and think about your future. What type of apartment you want to have around you. Picture the windows bringing in light, the paint all clean and the kitchen all bright. Picture nice furniture in the place with a special chair for you to use at night. Then picture a job place, busy, interesting, nice people to work along side of and the boss welcoming you into the job. Keep your mind focused on success even if all around you says failure – you have to think success.
  6. Force out the old negative bad thoughts, the worry over the past, the fear over the physical violence – everytime you catch yourself in worry – think about that new apartment, what color will you paint it, what kind of furniture will you fill it with and what will be in your cupboards or closets. Force your mind to think positive and fruitful thoughts…keep on the future, make your mind work in a way that will bring good things into your life, not repeat old ways of sadness.
  7. Think of three things that you are going to do for yourself when you get your job. A. buy a new purse, B. buy bananas just for you C. pick up a green plant at the store to enjoy. This is your life, what are your own three things to look forward to bringing into your life?
  8. Write down notes, take note of the names of people that help you and are kind, you can call them back if you get into a problem or have a question. Write down your personal information in a good easy to read printing. You do not want to have anyone skip over you because your form was not filled out.
  9. Remember, you are not at this point because you did any thing wrong, you are here because you are choosing a new life and that’s a good thing that has an element of excitement in it. Yes, it is scary, but Yes it is exciting. Keeping safe, if you need a shelter..you have to admit you are in trouble and you need a haven to be safe. Just as you would reach down and pick up a small kitten in the pathway of a large charging dog…so will others reach over and guide you to a shelter that is protected from anyone that wants to do you harm.

Your mind is your key…your mind, not your body. You have to think; I have a new job, I have a new home, I am safe and I am ready to begin this new life. No matter what you age, or how you look, or how you talk, you have to think NEW LIFE. You have to repeat it over and over and even when you are confronted with fear, you have to repeat it and believe it. Others will help you, but you have to ask. This is not the time to be the independent uppity lady who knows it all – this is the time, when you simply are honest about where you are and ask to be guided to places that can give you assistance.

To be brave enough to leave an uncomfortable place that still gave you a home, food and a place to belong – that was very hard to do. You have already taken those steps. The rest of your journey is just a journey. If you take it wisely, the journey will find an ending that gives you peace and your own life back again. No more living through another’s life…now you will have your own.

Now remember, do not allow yourself to think, I haven’t worked in a long time I don’t know what kind of a job I could get! NO, you have to think about how the job is going to make you feel…not what kind of job…how it will make you feel. I have a good job with a paycheck, I go to work with nice people, I stay busy and feel good about my work and I come home and can afford an apartment and food and I am safe. That is how you think about the job, not in terms of fear, but in terms of being content and happy to go to work, again!

Stop thinking about how you look, if you are to thin or too heavy, or have no clothes no one cares about those things but you. No one sees that but you, you have to force yourself to see your own loving body in a healthy light with new, clean clothing and know you are going to be health and well and serve your new life with joy, no fear. (End of shared reading)

If you would like to share your life challenges with Friend with one of his personal readings, just read the about pages and then contact francy. Thank you for your reading time. Share this with someone that might be facing a hard time – francy

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