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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Success – I have actually made my goal in acting, but now I’m surrounded with people that want a part of me >said Actor to friend in a reading

Actor speaking to friend: I am very disappointed in the fact that I am unable to enjoy my new success. I have finally gotten a good part on a TV show that’s successful and I have made a couple of movies and life seems to have lots of different opportunities in front of me. But which to take? I have an agent, a publicist and a company that represents me, I have a business manager, a CPA, a nutritionist, a personal assistant, a wardrobe specialist, a hair and makeup guy. I have a cook that comes in and prepares my food twice weekly, household help to clean my home and water my plants, I have a travel person, a voice and speaking coach, an old teacher that gives me reviews of my work and a family that loves me but thinks the acting is an awful life. It has taken me 6 years to get to this stage in my life, I went from small apartment living with no acting and part time jobs to where I am today. I am so busy I can hardly make myself sleep, my days off are spent doing PR for projects or in meetings with my management team. Now what, who do I listen to, who is really there to help me, or are they all there-just to take some of my hard earned money?

Friend to Actor – Both, there are always people that make their living off of others and their interests are usually tilted to their own income, not your income. They do want you to be successful because they make more money, but they do not look at you as a person that they represent as much as a person that makes money for them to gain a percentage income.  That leaves you in trouble. Here are some ideas to help you with your success:

  1. Get average people to help you as much as possible. Your business manager and other money people take education and experience to make them successful, not stars. So look for those professionals in another city than the one you are living and working in at this time. I would look to San Francisco for your money city. They will have a large accounting company that has lots of experience and you can find this through word of mouth or by doing some research on your own on the Internet. Let this company handle your income and the money decisions. They will then overview what your management and PR staff is doing. It means you have people on your side looking over you. They will not be in the loop and have loyalties to others in your acting community. That is important-they will look at you as any other successful client with ideas that are more based in reality not in LA LA land thinking.
  2. Know that no matter how upset you are you do not talk to your close personal group of workers. Your assistant, your hair person, your wardrobe stylist are there to guide you and make your life easier. You want them to do that by being kind and considerate, but not sharing your inner personal feelings, relationships and so on. They will not be long time loyal friends to you, they will be with you when you can afford them and need them when that time ends, they will leave and use the information you have given them to work against you. So stay private; it is not true that any PR or scandal is better than none. That is untruthful. You have to establish the point that you are a good person that acts. Not that you are a messed up person that is paid to act. Set your own standard of living high, talk to your family and long time friends or a faith based mentor, not to gossip prone employees. They may feel like your friends because you are around them all the time, but that is not a truth, they are hired by you – not paid friends.
  3. Have a modest apartment/condo in your LA area to live while you work but have a home out of the town to enjoy real life. I would think a drive of 60-90 minutes out of LA would bring you to a place that you could buy a private home in a nice neighborhood that has a view or on a lake/water. That way you can take your time off to wander around as a regular person, go shopping, go to the grocery store, the coffee shop and enjoy being with everyday people. That keeps life real for you. Once out of LA you can really recharge and see your life and work from eyes of reality, instead of a swirl of fame. Plus you can continue to get ideas for your acting by talking to and watching real people in a real town.
  4. Ask yourself what you need not what you want or what is accepted in your field. You may think that a certain watch will make you look “in” or that a certain nite club makes you popular. But the truth is that who you are is what brings you fame. You have to stay real and relevant. So, set a budget for yourself and ignore all the push for silly things and silly events. This makes you wise and the really successful professionals in entertainment are the ones that are wise and have long lasting careers.
  5. Find three organizations that fit your interests to volunteer with your time and efforts. If you have little free time, spend it helping those that you care about, not running around to events that get your picture in the papers. Be someone that can dedicate time, energy and money to three groups and that intense impact will find you on top of lists of people to watch.
  6. Each time you go to another set look around and find the true professionals on that set. Introduce yourself to the man that has been a successful camera man or light person in many TV or movie projects. Ask them questions, get them on your side, work hard to impress the director and read other works from the writers. Introduce yourself to the actors that are working well, not with fancy names, let people know you are a person that is interested in the business of entertainment, not a flash in the pan that has a hit TV show. Some day one of them may use your name for a project that could change your life. Be kind, be wise and be interested in those around you. Do not get hung up on being important, concentrate on your own work and honor others around you that do a good job. Thank you cards or small thoughtful gifts to those that you work with and then leave for another project is always very smart.
  7. Force yourself to read scripts not have others do it for you. You may find a gem in the pile. Learn how to read fast, or read the first middle and end to get the feeling for the piece. If you are stuck with a pile of scripts and no time find honest help. Get a librarian or a college English or drama teacher to read them and take notes on them for your review. They will have talents and thoughts that you will find helpful. Your professional people will look at scripts and projects as which will make you the most money, not which will help you learn and experience and become a better actor that will work for years. Your goal is not a flash in the pan. How many hit TV show stars or boy band singers have to sell their big homes just to have money 10 years down the line? Learn from them, stay in reality and keep looking towards your next job.
  8. Looking and acting successful is important and you do that with your mind, not your group of helpers around you. You do not need silly friends that mean nothing, you need to be reading scripts, writing things yourself, coming up with ideas for your talents and resting to restore your health. That is how success will stay around you.

Actor to Friend- So, I should not be afraid to really be picky about my assistants that are around me? I know so little about success, I just thought that these people have done so much for others success that I should follow their advice.

Friend to Actor– What people have they helped? How long have they been in business, how long are the actors and performers that they represent been in business and how financially well set are they? You see you have to look at acting like any other business, you have a small window of success and that income has to be invested well for you to take that money on to your later years when work will be harder to find. You are like a dancer or sportsperson, you have a window of opportunity and then it will be over. So do not look at your work as a hay day and just to have fun. See it as a gift of a great job that you have to do at your best so you can go on to another project.

You can do this, you can listen to opportunities that come to you and take time to think them over. If you need more insight you can come back to me and I can review it with you.

Long life and working with all of the talents you have is success…you have so much in front of you, so keep looking ahead. You are too creative to find yourself without work, you need to lift up those wings and learn to do all things, from acting to directing, to teaching and writing scripts or project ideas, from investing in a business owned by someone as hard working as you are to developing your name into a brand and enjoy the world open to you.

Actor to friend – I always get honest insight when I have readings with you, thank you for that. Its good to know I can talk to someone that has no ball in the game and is just thinking about me. Thank you, I look forward meeting with you in person next month on my trip up north. I told you about the friend that wants to have an in-person reading with you, too.

Friend to Actor – I am proud of what you have done and how you are taking time to keep your feet on the ground even when you have so much success around you. I look forward to our next time together.

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Friend’s Daily Offering is collected from Channeled Readings since 1983 and is edited for privacy.

Deep Worry Over Moneya condition that affects so many people in different ways that Friend wanted to share how he handles it on a one on one – this is totally different for each person that comes to him for a reading – the following is just a sample of one of his readings.

Client to Friend in Channeled Reading: I am overwhelmed with fear over money. I simply am stuck in the middle of so many different things that are affecting me that I find myself trapped in fear. I try to change my brain but I am thinking panic all the time and it is ruining my relationships and my whole life.

Friend to Client via phone Reading: I am so sorry you have this in your life. So, let’s talk a little about it. You have been a person in the past with a good income; I can feel that you have had a lot of prosperity, so I suppose this down turn has you confused.

Client to Friend: It does, you are right, I have had a good job all my life and now the work is simply not there. Plus, my wife’s health is not good and she has required a lot of time off from her work and our son is now in need of extra help financially and I am just not there for him at all.

Friend to Client: I understand that means that you are stuck in a place where you began to have lack and then it just got caught up in more and more. So, first, let’s talk about being brave enough to believe in a plan of action. What I will share sounds so benign that it could never help you…but I assure you it does help. So, I am going to ask you a favor and to follow these steps and just give it a try. After all, you are talking to me today because things are so bad you need guidance, so give this a chance.

Now we will begin. Fear is simply not allowed in your life, because it kills so many other emotions. You do understand that everyone has fear, but it has to be put down immediately in order for your life to flow. So fear is out. Now that sounds easy but before we talk about prosperity, we have to deal with this overwhelming fear issue right now to get it taken care of from this moment on.

  • The moment that you feel fear, just let it flow over you. Take note of what the source of the fear is at the time. You may automatically think its fear of not having enough to pay bills, so you ignore the bill pile. But it may be that you’re really fearful of telling your wife that money is at a very critical low and she has to understand that spending needs to be stopped not just reduced. What is your fear? You see, fear could be something totally different from what you think and to dissipate the fear, you have to know what it is that you are worried about to the point that brings feelings of fear.
  • Once the feeling of fear comes over you. How is it starting to form in your mind? Do you feel alone, do you want to hide the feelings; can you share your feelings? Many times people find that the feeling of fear is more the feeling of being totally alone facing a problem. That brings on the feeling of fear, so this is when you have to reach out and talk to your wife, or your best friend, sibling, parent or so on. The person you confide in to bring you a feeling that the worry you have is now voiced and out in public. Many times keeping problems to yourself, because you feel they will bother others, or bring embarrassment, will start the downturn of worry into fear and then make it worse and worse.
  • Facing the problem, talking about the problem is the way that you can take the fear down into small pieces to get rid of it or reduce it down to a place that you find it less stressful.
  • Dealing with the worse. I have many clients that come to me for reading in the middle of a crisis. They may have a spouse in hospital and they want to talk about how to deal with their health and get them through the crisis. They are often shocked when I ask them to spend a moment to think about what would happen if their spouse was suddenly gone. They do not want to talk about anything that depressing – they want to think of how to make the spouse well. I do not bring up the subject to depress them; I bring up the worse thought – to give it light. If you talk about the worse that could happen and get a feeling for it and roll it around in your mind. Then you can put those feelings away and re-direct your mind to the present and the healing of the spouse. The mind is now able to release the inner fear of the unknown and deal with the current emergency with a clear view.
  • I would like you to do some journaling. I know you are busy, tired and journaling may seem childish. I assure you it is not childish, it is how you figure out problems for yourself. Journaling is done in private; your thoughts are your own, so make this a private task. Get a spiral notebook and just sit down before you go to bed and write a few things down for me. I want you to do this for seven days. The mind and body have a rule of healing that is seven days to make a start, 21 days to change a habit, 84 days to change your health – so there is some work to do.
  • Write down each evening one page with three things that are the worst outcome to your current top three problems. Face it and write it down. You would lose all your money in your savings, you could lose your home, you could lose your job, and you could lose your marriage. Write down only three problems that would be the worst, then under each of those write down three things that you think would be the worst about those problems. If you lose all your savings you would probably lose your credit line and that would start another line of problems and so on. If you lose your marriage, you would have to move out and live on your own, not see your children as much, suffer from the loss of your friendship with your wife. You see how it goes, you face – not solve – just face the worst of your issues. The worst thoughts right on the paper…day after day.
  • New Journal Page each night: Three things that you want to do when the money comes back into your life – just three things each night. Maybe you will buy something, repair something, or go somewhere. But write three things down on a new page, each night.
  • New Page each night: Three things that you can do to bring in money from the universe that you are not doing now. Think about this. You cannot write down more work at work. No, you have to think of things to do to bring in money from any other source than you already have at your finger tips. You could write down something that you could sell on eBay, you could write down a service you could do for others, a small business that you could start, a second job you could do on the weekends, or any other way that money could come to you from the universe. The Universe meaning from any and all directions in any or all ways – without limits.
  • Now, one more thing. In a private place you need to write down a line of positive thinking that you can see during the day. Maybe put it on your computer screen or your bathroom mirror, or on your car dashboard, or the refrigerator. You need to write it down and you need to say it a minimum of three times a day – out loud…so, you can hear yourself saying the words: “I have an infinite abundance of love, money and health in my life and my needs are always met – I feel safe and I feel loved”

     

OK, that’s that for now. You have some thinking to do on this. Each night you have writing to do. Each day you have thoughts to review and change. You have your positive motivation to read and you have to trust in me. I know this is not giving you a check to walk out the door with or solving world peace. But you have to understand that it takes small movements to begin a big change. If you watch a bird, they will begin to just flap their wings and then they rise. This is just wing flapping I know, but trust me when you come back to me for your next reading in a week – we will both feel a change in your prosperity to the better. It may be tiny or it may be a big boost, but there will be a change and then we will take the next step.

Thank you for reading through this small edited version of a Reading with Friend. We would enjoy working with you, on your own private concerns please visit our pages about us and how to schedule an appointment with us. We do our appointments over the phone and talk about personal issues, business and spiritual questions. Thank you, francy

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Zapping Energy – Friend’s Daily Offering; On zapping energy from others and not knowing you do it. This is edited from many Channeled readings with Friend since 1983 – details and names held for privacy.

Are you finding you have not heard from close friends lately? Do you find that when you are out and about others tend to stand back from you, or sit away from you? Are you giving others your thoughts and ideas and nothing seems to be coming back to you from them? Do you feel family or friends are not paying as much attention to their relationship with you, as you are to them? Are you not getting attention at work, or having negative job interviews?

Some times, just when you feel that you are the stand up guy and you are doing so much for others – there is a quiet under current of your feeling that you do not get what you deserve or the attention that you enjoy. In your mind you tend to think, “They don’t love me, or like me, or care about me.” – Is that true?

Client to Friend during Channeled Phone Reading:I have been feeling left out of things for quite some time now. I attend a family function and find siblings that do not spend time talking to me. I go out after work with co-workers and they tend to ignor me, they are pleasant enough, just not interactive. I try to do things for others and I do not understand why others do not respond with friendship towards me.

Friend to Client: I know that you do good things for others. I’m thinking of how you helped your neighbor recently with his car and that was kind and giving and no money was exchanged, just you giving to him. So, the idea of your giving is there but I think it may be lost some where behind other things in your life. You want others to see you as the friendly, giving and loyal person you are, not a person that gives off negative feelings.

Client to Friend in Channeled Phone Reading: I don’t understand lost, what is lost? I helped the neighbor, I watched my sister’s kids last week and she arrived took them home with out even staying to visit. I finished a big report at work that was really to be done by two other people but they were swamped and so I did the work and they did thank me, but they didn’t buy me coffee or chat about the report at all. It ‘s like I’m not there – I’m being ignored.

Friend to Client:I don’t think that’s it at all – I think it may be just the opposite. You see you have been very down in your emotions for a long time. You are still upset over your relationship break-up and that was almost two years ago. It has changed you, you have gotten yourself in such a down mode and so involved with overall sadness that your energy level is really dipping. You have had quite a few colds and allergy attacks lately and that’s unusual for you, you usually have a high tolerance to illness. You have withdrawn from your usual hobbies, you rarely hike, do not spend time on the yard – just mow the grass and you no longer even get your motorcycle out of the garage to clean – let alone ride, is this not the case?

Client to Friend: Yes, that is true, I just feel tired all the time. Maybe there’s something wrong with me physically? Should I get a check up?

Friend to  Client:  I do not think it’s physical in that way, I think what has happened is that you are so low in your emotions that you are carrying around a dark cloud over your head. Do you understand what I mean by that? You certainly do not want this low energy to come across in a job review, or hiring, or just that your boss sees you as tired.

Client to Friend: Well, I suppose so, it has been a long time since I have done anything fun, but that’s because my friends just do not seem to want to be with me any more.

Friend to Client:I’m sure that’s how you see it. But I think what’s happening is that when you are out and about and you are feeling a bit  low and tired, you tend to be drawn to high energy people. The most productive people in the office were so busy that you gave them a hand with their project that was due. That is a kind thing, but you were drawn to them with their energy. When you were around them you felt good, excited to be around high energy people. The same with your family members. The problem is that when you are around them, you are feeling their energy and it makes you feel good…so you actually take their energy. I know it may seem strange. But that is the reason that they do not stay in close to you…they feel you drawing from their energy when they’re around you -they walk away tired, frustrated, or confused. You become someone that does not make them feel good to be around. Now, I did not say you did something nasty to them, they just get an inner pull that you’re not giving them energy back, your interaction is not pleasant for them. So they retreat. If asked they would never say they disliked you in any way.

Client to Friend:You know I have to tell you something odd. My niece told me last week that I made her tired. She’s only five so I thought that was a strange thing to say, but she is a very sweet little thing and I wondered where that came from.

Friend to Client:Energy is a strange thing. You have it, but you don’t wear it on the outside of your clothes so it’s hard thing to check on its level. What you can check is how you feel. Lately- that has been down, tired and now rejected by friends. Since there is nothing about you that is bad or nasty, you are a nice person…the energy level thing is very important to look at. You can not tell if this is really something that’s true for you or not – so let’s just go over some things for you to try – so you can bring your own energy up instead of gleaning energy from others when you are around them.

  • In the morning when you wake up. First thing, stand up and stretch. Just a stretch like a cat would do…nice and tall. Stretch yourself out and tell yourself that you have had a good night’s rest and you are ready for the day. (even if you feel tired, tell yourself you have had a good night’s rest)
  • Do your morning toilet, shower and make sure you eat a meal. Now if you find eating is hard, then be prepared. Buy food that can be heated quickly and eaten, like frozen quiches, or frozen pancakes. Fast and easy, but real food that will fill you up and give you energy for the morning, not just coffee.
  • Before you leave for the day….take three deep breathes and feel the oxygen pulled up in your lungs and into your brain. Then take off and do what ever you do during the day.
  • Sit something on your desk at work that draws people over to you. How about a jar of candy..that will pull folks over to take a piece. You keep it filled for a while and when they come over, just look up and say, “Hi John, have a good day.” Turn around and continue to do your work. What you have done is given John a candy and a positive response to his visit with you. You have taken nothing from him. He leaves feeling good about you.
  • If you feel tired around 11ish, then you know you have a fall in energy. Since that is not a good thing for you, since you have a problem with energy overall…then get up from the office area and walk and take in a few deep breaths. Have an energy drink or bar in your office drawer to give you power to continue on until lunch. Then at lunch you will have energy on a higher level, you can invite another worker and when you go out, you are not dragging. Your energy is still in a good place and you’re able to have a higher level conversation, eat good things and leave your friend feeling he has had a nice time, not time with a person that pulled him down.
  • Repeat the action in the mid-afternoon. Another walk around the office or the outside of the building, a few good deep breaths, an energy bar or drink and then back to work to have a renewed boost of energy.
  • Home to meal that is good for you, with all the different type of foods. I you are living alone, then buy food that can easily be heated and give you good meals, do not stop off and get garbage food, it will just pull on your energy and give you nothing in return.
  • Two nights a week, you will be doing something you enjoy doing. It is up to you, you can take your motorcycle out of the garage and go and visit family or friends, stay for a short time and then leave before you get to tired and start to pull on them for energy. This will increase your energy by doing things that bring you pleasure, instead of staying home and worrying about live. You are taking charge and others will start to feel it -as pleasant to be around you.
  • Do something new, take a class in something fun at the local community college: Latin dancing, computer sciences, property investment, anything that will give you a feeling of learning and increase your excitement and energy level. Something new for you to talk about to friends and family. Something new for you to think about. Maybe even new people to meet and enjoy!
  • Keep your mind on the goal – of rising your energy level and decreasing your low emotional levels. Eat good food, breath deeply, get some exercise, exercise your brain with new ideas and start to give to others in small ways with no strings attached from you. I think that you are going to find it will slowly turn your mind around to a better place and you will interact with others in a stronger and more positive way.

Often Friend finds that people come to him with ideas and questions on life issues and do not realize that their problems stem from small underlying troubles. Easier things to change than the big problem that’s effecting them. It’s always hard to get the client to see…that the small changes, can make such a big effect on the big challenges in their life. But every time, they trust in Friend and do the homework, no matter how strange it seems at the time – a change does happen for the betterment of their life. Please do read about Friend and Francy and call in for a private phone reading on your own personal issues or business soon. Thank you, francy

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