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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering, information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy by francy Saunders

It may seem like setting our clocks back an hour is a hopeless way to welcome in spring…but in the long run…that extra sunshine comes along and we are so glad to have the extra time to enjoy it!

There are so many different issues around depression. From the simple down feelings after a long day to the heavy heart and mind over deep depression. What Friend has long shared with us is the importance of finding out what the ‘root’ cause is of those down feelings.

Saying you can ‘work your way’ out of depression, or take medications to relieve the deep dips of depression is easier said than done. There has to be another side to the personal search for a lighter heart and relief from the frustration of the dark obis of long term depression.

Friend does a reading with his clients and they talk about the reason for the depression in the first place. Finding the cause means that the treatment you choose to improve your depression becomes more successful. That cause can be a lot of very small events, or the constant pull from events that have been very big and hurtful in your life. This review and getting down to the beginning of pain and fear is the way that wise life-travelers find their lives have less stress.

This process of life review for those hurtful feelings and events, is in combination of knowing about your own body and what can be done to improve your inside health so the emotional health can take hold and find peace. This step is so important that if you want to schedule a session you can do that here.

The process of combining the emotional and the physical process of getting stronger and well is the key to being a person that finds joy back in their lives.

Here are some other keys to start you on that process of healing:

  • Do something so simple….DRINK water. If you are in stress and your body is producing stressful toxins, your job is to flush them out. If your days are filled with hours of high powered rushing and doing…you need to take time to drink and let those toxins flush out. Even if you can not halt the insanity of your job or your family chaos — you can drink water.
  • Add Vitamin D. Sunshine is not on the top of all of our lists. It takes time to go out the door and sit in the sun and takes time to relax. Not to mention, if your life in an area where the sun is not as high on the list as it is in California or Florida…you need to add Vitamin D to your intake. I started my husband George on 1,000 units of Vitamin D each day and after two months his emotional health was markedly improved. Even his Nurse Practioner noticed on his next visit. It is such an easy thing to do and inexpensive.
  • Breathe fresh air. Even if its on the way from your car park to the office building. Really do some deep breathing on your walk across the parking lot. Breath in with your nose and out with your mouth. Feel your chest fill up with the air and then allow it to slowly push out your mouth. That fresh oxygen will go to your brain; it will perk you up and get you started on your day with a calmer  feeling around you.
  • Take note of the longer days of light. Don’t just go home to a dark room and the TV. Take time to sit outside or stand in front of the door and drink in the sunshine. The light itself will really give you a boost. If you have a day of sunshine, go out to lunch…do a short walk and get as much of the sun as you can absorb. It will really uplift your spirits. If your days are marked with gray days or lots of rainy days…then make sure you turn on lights in your home…so you can feel the brightness.
  • If its a Kindle or a MP3 player take them along with you and allow your mind to have a fun book on the run. Even if it takes a couple of weeks to finish it…let yourself have a way to remove yourself from the pressure around you. Even if it’s for 10 minutes here and there…you will be thinking of a different story than your own life patterns.
  • Write a list of friends you have not connected with in ages. Then appoint a lunch time, each week, to make one call to a dear friend. Take a sandwich to your desk, or grab a few minutes while your kids nap…and make a call. Surprise that old friend and get caught up with their life and share your’s. That re-connect is so important to remind you – you have friends that love you. This allows you to get through a day with fellow employees, boss, or family members that do not seem to appreciate you.
  • Wear color in your wardrobe. If you are a guy, that tie is there to shake up your world…work it with a bright color. If you are a gal; buy that bright yellow hand bag and wear it with pride. Showing your color, means your heart is out there floating free…not caught up in grays, blues and black for days on end.
  • Walk your dog, or throw the ball around with your child. Interaction with those that you care for will fill you with joy. Thinking of other’s needs means you are not thinking of your own worries. You lift yourself up and spend an hour enjoying life.
  • STOP the sugar. You can do it. Remember sugar is in carbs. So that means that rice and white bread give you just as much sugar as a candy bar. Be honest with yourself. You need to remove that sugar so you stop the ups and downs in your behavior and sugar levels. Find snacks that are low in sugar and find fruits or veggies you can take with you to boost your energy without the crash from the sugar.

All of these things are easy to do, but they do take thinking ahead and being prepared to move through your day on a little different path. If you are thinking that depression is becoming a bigger issue in your life. Give some of these small changes a try to help relieve the pressure in your daily coming and goings.

Give the idea of working through personal issues that may be adding to your difficultly fighting the depression in your life. Healing the whole in your life is a process that can bring joy back. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could really enjoy your spring/summer…instead of just getting through it again, this year?

We hope to meet with you in session. Blessings, francy

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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Success – I have actually made my goal in acting, but now I’m surrounded with people that want a part of me >said Actor to friend in a reading

Actor speaking to friend: I am very disappointed in the fact that I am unable to enjoy my new success. I have finally gotten a good part on a TV show that’s successful and I have made a couple of movies and life seems to have lots of different opportunities in front of me. But which to take? I have an agent, a publicist and a company that represents me, I have a business manager, a CPA, a nutritionist, a personal assistant, a wardrobe specialist, a hair and makeup guy. I have a cook that comes in and prepares my food twice weekly, household help to clean my home and water my plants, I have a travel person, a voice and speaking coach, an old teacher that gives me reviews of my work and a family that loves me but thinks the acting is an awful life. It has taken me 6 years to get to this stage in my life, I went from small apartment living with no acting and part time jobs to where I am today. I am so busy I can hardly make myself sleep, my days off are spent doing PR for projects or in meetings with my management team. Now what, who do I listen to, who is really there to help me, or are they all there-just to take some of my hard earned money?

Friend to Actor – Both, there are always people that make their living off of others and their interests are usually tilted to their own income, not your income. They do want you to be successful because they make more money, but they do not look at you as a person that they represent as much as a person that makes money for them to gain a percentage income.  That leaves you in trouble. Here are some ideas to help you with your success:

  1. Get average people to help you as much as possible. Your business manager and other money people take education and experience to make them successful, not stars. So look for those professionals in another city than the one you are living and working in at this time. I would look to San Francisco for your money city. They will have a large accounting company that has lots of experience and you can find this through word of mouth or by doing some research on your own on the Internet. Let this company handle your income and the money decisions. They will then overview what your management and PR staff is doing. It means you have people on your side looking over you. They will not be in the loop and have loyalties to others in your acting community. That is important-they will look at you as any other successful client with ideas that are more based in reality not in LA LA land thinking.
  2. Know that no matter how upset you are you do not talk to your close personal group of workers. Your assistant, your hair person, your wardrobe stylist are there to guide you and make your life easier. You want them to do that by being kind and considerate, but not sharing your inner personal feelings, relationships and so on. They will not be long time loyal friends to you, they will be with you when you can afford them and need them when that time ends, they will leave and use the information you have given them to work against you. So stay private; it is not true that any PR or scandal is better than none. That is untruthful. You have to establish the point that you are a good person that acts. Not that you are a messed up person that is paid to act. Set your own standard of living high, talk to your family and long time friends or a faith based mentor, not to gossip prone employees. They may feel like your friends because you are around them all the time, but that is not a truth, they are hired by you – not paid friends.
  3. Have a modest apartment/condo in your LA area to live while you work but have a home out of the town to enjoy real life. I would think a drive of 60-90 minutes out of LA would bring you to a place that you could buy a private home in a nice neighborhood that has a view or on a lake/water. That way you can take your time off to wander around as a regular person, go shopping, go to the grocery store, the coffee shop and enjoy being with everyday people. That keeps life real for you. Once out of LA you can really recharge and see your life and work from eyes of reality, instead of a swirl of fame. Plus you can continue to get ideas for your acting by talking to and watching real people in a real town.
  4. Ask yourself what you need not what you want or what is accepted in your field. You may think that a certain watch will make you look “in” or that a certain nite club makes you popular. But the truth is that who you are is what brings you fame. You have to stay real and relevant. So, set a budget for yourself and ignore all the push for silly things and silly events. This makes you wise and the really successful professionals in entertainment are the ones that are wise and have long lasting careers.
  5. Find three organizations that fit your interests to volunteer with your time and efforts. If you have little free time, spend it helping those that you care about, not running around to events that get your picture in the papers. Be someone that can dedicate time, energy and money to three groups and that intense impact will find you on top of lists of people to watch.
  6. Each time you go to another set look around and find the true professionals on that set. Introduce yourself to the man that has been a successful camera man or light person in many TV or movie projects. Ask them questions, get them on your side, work hard to impress the director and read other works from the writers. Introduce yourself to the actors that are working well, not with fancy names, let people know you are a person that is interested in the business of entertainment, not a flash in the pan that has a hit TV show. Some day one of them may use your name for a project that could change your life. Be kind, be wise and be interested in those around you. Do not get hung up on being important, concentrate on your own work and honor others around you that do a good job. Thank you cards or small thoughtful gifts to those that you work with and then leave for another project is always very smart.
  7. Force yourself to read scripts not have others do it for you. You may find a gem in the pile. Learn how to read fast, or read the first middle and end to get the feeling for the piece. If you are stuck with a pile of scripts and no time find honest help. Get a librarian or a college English or drama teacher to read them and take notes on them for your review. They will have talents and thoughts that you will find helpful. Your professional people will look at scripts and projects as which will make you the most money, not which will help you learn and experience and become a better actor that will work for years. Your goal is not a flash in the pan. How many hit TV show stars or boy band singers have to sell their big homes just to have money 10 years down the line? Learn from them, stay in reality and keep looking towards your next job.
  8. Looking and acting successful is important and you do that with your mind, not your group of helpers around you. You do not need silly friends that mean nothing, you need to be reading scripts, writing things yourself, coming up with ideas for your talents and resting to restore your health. That is how success will stay around you.

Actor to Friend- So, I should not be afraid to really be picky about my assistants that are around me? I know so little about success, I just thought that these people have done so much for others success that I should follow their advice.

Friend to Actor– What people have they helped? How long have they been in business, how long are the actors and performers that they represent been in business and how financially well set are they? You see you have to look at acting like any other business, you have a small window of success and that income has to be invested well for you to take that money on to your later years when work will be harder to find. You are like a dancer or sportsperson, you have a window of opportunity and then it will be over. So do not look at your work as a hay day and just to have fun. See it as a gift of a great job that you have to do at your best so you can go on to another project.

You can do this, you can listen to opportunities that come to you and take time to think them over. If you need more insight you can come back to me and I can review it with you.

Long life and working with all of the talents you have is success…you have so much in front of you, so keep looking ahead. You are too creative to find yourself without work, you need to lift up those wings and learn to do all things, from acting to directing, to teaching and writing scripts or project ideas, from investing in a business owned by someone as hard working as you are to developing your name into a brand and enjoy the world open to you.

Actor to friend – I always get honest insight when I have readings with you, thank you for that. Its good to know I can talk to someone that has no ball in the game and is just thinking about me. Thank you, I look forward meeting with you in person next month on my trip up north. I told you about the friend that wants to have an in-person reading with you, too.

Friend to Actor – I am proud of what you have done and how you are taking time to keep your feet on the ground even when you have so much success around you. I look forward to our next time together.

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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

ESCAPE Friend in phone reading with client: I understand you feel totally terrified. You have no money, no job, you have no place to live and you have left the relationship you thought would make you happy. So, just know I understand that every single step you have taken is scary and you have no other alternative but to make all of these changes. You are the brave one, you are the one to celebrate as FREE – you have chosen loving yourself over losing yourself – I am very pleased with your actions and proud of you.

  1. First, you have to find a place to live. I would march right up to the nearest church and ask them for their community outreach program to help you. Even if it is one night’s rest in the church, you will be able to sleep and get rest. They will help you, they are there to help you. Do not be afraid to ask for help, that is what people have been giving their Sunday collections toward. You will get a connection for emergency money for food and a place to live.
  2. There are special shelters for those that have fear from abuse, you need to ask about them and have someone take you there. Do not wander around where you can be seen – if you are in danger, ask others to help you out of danger.
  3. Then the next step is to go to the Department of Human Resources in your area and get bus passes, food coupons, and direction with job placement. They will give you a listing and ask them as many questions as you can. You will need to have a mail box for most of your information coming to you. I would ask at the church or the shelter if you can use that address for a month for a mail box – so you can get your help and then you will be in a new place to live and you can use your own address.
  4. Just stand in line and stand up straight and tell them your story as you know it to be true. There is nothing you have done to be ashamed of – you have just had things happen that now have to be corrected. The staff at these places are trained to help you, they may be over worked so be very patient and always smile and say thank you for your time. That is how you get helped before others, you show them you appreciate their care, not act like you deserve the help.
  5. Now the hardest thing is to begin to think of yourself as already in your new home, in your new job and in your new life. You have to sit and wait in lines at these places, so just rest and think about your future. What type of apartment you want to have around you. Picture the windows bringing in light, the paint all clean and the kitchen all bright. Picture nice furniture in the place with a special chair for you to use at night. Then picture a job place, busy, interesting, nice people to work along side of and the boss welcoming you into the job. Keep your mind focused on success even if all around you says failure – you have to think success.
  6. Force out the old negative bad thoughts, the worry over the past, the fear over the physical violence – everytime you catch yourself in worry – think about that new apartment, what color will you paint it, what kind of furniture will you fill it with and what will be in your cupboards or closets. Force your mind to think positive and fruitful thoughts…keep on the future, make your mind work in a way that will bring good things into your life, not repeat old ways of sadness.
  7. Think of three things that you are going to do for yourself when you get your job. A. buy a new purse, B. buy bananas just for you C. pick up a green plant at the store to enjoy. This is your life, what are your own three things to look forward to bringing into your life?
  8. Write down notes, take note of the names of people that help you and are kind, you can call them back if you get into a problem or have a question. Write down your personal information in a good easy to read printing. You do not want to have anyone skip over you because your form was not filled out.
  9. Remember, you are not at this point because you did any thing wrong, you are here because you are choosing a new life and that’s a good thing that has an element of excitement in it. Yes, it is scary, but Yes it is exciting. Keeping safe, if you need a shelter..you have to admit you are in trouble and you need a haven to be safe. Just as you would reach down and pick up a small kitten in the pathway of a large charging dog…so will others reach over and guide you to a shelter that is protected from anyone that wants to do you harm.

Your mind is your key…your mind, not your body. You have to think; I have a new job, I have a new home, I am safe and I am ready to begin this new life. No matter what you age, or how you look, or how you talk, you have to think NEW LIFE. You have to repeat it over and over and even when you are confronted with fear, you have to repeat it and believe it. Others will help you, but you have to ask. This is not the time to be the independent uppity lady who knows it all – this is the time, when you simply are honest about where you are and ask to be guided to places that can give you assistance.

To be brave enough to leave an uncomfortable place that still gave you a home, food and a place to belong – that was very hard to do. You have already taken those steps. The rest of your journey is just a journey. If you take it wisely, the journey will find an ending that gives you peace and your own life back again. No more living through another’s life…now you will have your own.

Now remember, do not allow yourself to think, I haven’t worked in a long time I don’t know what kind of a job I could get! NO, you have to think about how the job is going to make you feel…not what kind of job…how it will make you feel. I have a good job with a paycheck, I go to work with nice people, I stay busy and feel good about my work and I come home and can afford an apartment and food and I am safe. That is how you think about the job, not in terms of fear, but in terms of being content and happy to go to work, again!

Stop thinking about how you look, if you are to thin or too heavy, or have no clothes no one cares about those things but you. No one sees that but you, you have to force yourself to see your own loving body in a healthy light with new, clean clothing and know you are going to be health and well and serve your new life with joy, no fear. (End of shared reading)

If you would like to share your life challenges with Friend with one of his personal readings, just read the about pages and then contact francy. Thank you for your reading time. Share this with someone that might be facing a hard time – francy

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Zapping Energy – Friend’s Daily Offering; On zapping energy from others and not knowing you do it. This is edited from many Channeled readings with Friend since 1983 – details and names held for privacy.

Are you finding you have not heard from close friends lately? Do you find that when you are out and about others tend to stand back from you, or sit away from you? Are you giving others your thoughts and ideas and nothing seems to be coming back to you from them? Do you feel family or friends are not paying as much attention to their relationship with you, as you are to them? Are you not getting attention at work, or having negative job interviews?

Some times, just when you feel that you are the stand up guy and you are doing so much for others – there is a quiet under current of your feeling that you do not get what you deserve or the attention that you enjoy. In your mind you tend to think, “They don’t love me, or like me, or care about me.” – Is that true?

Client to Friend during Channeled Phone Reading:I have been feeling left out of things for quite some time now. I attend a family function and find siblings that do not spend time talking to me. I go out after work with co-workers and they tend to ignor me, they are pleasant enough, just not interactive. I try to do things for others and I do not understand why others do not respond with friendship towards me.

Friend to Client: I know that you do good things for others. I’m thinking of how you helped your neighbor recently with his car and that was kind and giving and no money was exchanged, just you giving to him. So, the idea of your giving is there but I think it may be lost some where behind other things in your life. You want others to see you as the friendly, giving and loyal person you are, not a person that gives off negative feelings.

Client to Friend in Channeled Phone Reading: I don’t understand lost, what is lost? I helped the neighbor, I watched my sister’s kids last week and she arrived took them home with out even staying to visit. I finished a big report at work that was really to be done by two other people but they were swamped and so I did the work and they did thank me, but they didn’t buy me coffee or chat about the report at all. It ‘s like I’m not there – I’m being ignored.

Friend to Client:I don’t think that’s it at all – I think it may be just the opposite. You see you have been very down in your emotions for a long time. You are still upset over your relationship break-up and that was almost two years ago. It has changed you, you have gotten yourself in such a down mode and so involved with overall sadness that your energy level is really dipping. You have had quite a few colds and allergy attacks lately and that’s unusual for you, you usually have a high tolerance to illness. You have withdrawn from your usual hobbies, you rarely hike, do not spend time on the yard – just mow the grass and you no longer even get your motorcycle out of the garage to clean – let alone ride, is this not the case?

Client to Friend: Yes, that is true, I just feel tired all the time. Maybe there’s something wrong with me physically? Should I get a check up?

Friend to  Client:  I do not think it’s physical in that way, I think what has happened is that you are so low in your emotions that you are carrying around a dark cloud over your head. Do you understand what I mean by that? You certainly do not want this low energy to come across in a job review, or hiring, or just that your boss sees you as tired.

Client to Friend: Well, I suppose so, it has been a long time since I have done anything fun, but that’s because my friends just do not seem to want to be with me any more.

Friend to Client:I’m sure that’s how you see it. But I think what’s happening is that when you are out and about and you are feeling a bit  low and tired, you tend to be drawn to high energy people. The most productive people in the office were so busy that you gave them a hand with their project that was due. That is a kind thing, but you were drawn to them with their energy. When you were around them you felt good, excited to be around high energy people. The same with your family members. The problem is that when you are around them, you are feeling their energy and it makes you feel good…so you actually take their energy. I know it may seem strange. But that is the reason that they do not stay in close to you…they feel you drawing from their energy when they’re around you -they walk away tired, frustrated, or confused. You become someone that does not make them feel good to be around. Now, I did not say you did something nasty to them, they just get an inner pull that you’re not giving them energy back, your interaction is not pleasant for them. So they retreat. If asked they would never say they disliked you in any way.

Client to Friend:You know I have to tell you something odd. My niece told me last week that I made her tired. She’s only five so I thought that was a strange thing to say, but she is a very sweet little thing and I wondered where that came from.

Friend to Client:Energy is a strange thing. You have it, but you don’t wear it on the outside of your clothes so it’s hard thing to check on its level. What you can check is how you feel. Lately- that has been down, tired and now rejected by friends. Since there is nothing about you that is bad or nasty, you are a nice person…the energy level thing is very important to look at. You can not tell if this is really something that’s true for you or not – so let’s just go over some things for you to try – so you can bring your own energy up instead of gleaning energy from others when you are around them.

  • In the morning when you wake up. First thing, stand up and stretch. Just a stretch like a cat would do…nice and tall. Stretch yourself out and tell yourself that you have had a good night’s rest and you are ready for the day. (even if you feel tired, tell yourself you have had a good night’s rest)
  • Do your morning toilet, shower and make sure you eat a meal. Now if you find eating is hard, then be prepared. Buy food that can be heated quickly and eaten, like frozen quiches, or frozen pancakes. Fast and easy, but real food that will fill you up and give you energy for the morning, not just coffee.
  • Before you leave for the day….take three deep breathes and feel the oxygen pulled up in your lungs and into your brain. Then take off and do what ever you do during the day.
  • Sit something on your desk at work that draws people over to you. How about a jar of candy..that will pull folks over to take a piece. You keep it filled for a while and when they come over, just look up and say, “Hi John, have a good day.” Turn around and continue to do your work. What you have done is given John a candy and a positive response to his visit with you. You have taken nothing from him. He leaves feeling good about you.
  • If you feel tired around 11ish, then you know you have a fall in energy. Since that is not a good thing for you, since you have a problem with energy overall…then get up from the office area and walk and take in a few deep breaths. Have an energy drink or bar in your office drawer to give you power to continue on until lunch. Then at lunch you will have energy on a higher level, you can invite another worker and when you go out, you are not dragging. Your energy is still in a good place and you’re able to have a higher level conversation, eat good things and leave your friend feeling he has had a nice time, not time with a person that pulled him down.
  • Repeat the action in the mid-afternoon. Another walk around the office or the outside of the building, a few good deep breaths, an energy bar or drink and then back to work to have a renewed boost of energy.
  • Home to meal that is good for you, with all the different type of foods. I you are living alone, then buy food that can easily be heated and give you good meals, do not stop off and get garbage food, it will just pull on your energy and give you nothing in return.
  • Two nights a week, you will be doing something you enjoy doing. It is up to you, you can take your motorcycle out of the garage and go and visit family or friends, stay for a short time and then leave before you get to tired and start to pull on them for energy. This will increase your energy by doing things that bring you pleasure, instead of staying home and worrying about live. You are taking charge and others will start to feel it -as pleasant to be around you.
  • Do something new, take a class in something fun at the local community college: Latin dancing, computer sciences, property investment, anything that will give you a feeling of learning and increase your excitement and energy level. Something new for you to talk about to friends and family. Something new for you to think about. Maybe even new people to meet and enjoy!
  • Keep your mind on the goal – of rising your energy level and decreasing your low emotional levels. Eat good food, breath deeply, get some exercise, exercise your brain with new ideas and start to give to others in small ways with no strings attached from you. I think that you are going to find it will slowly turn your mind around to a better place and you will interact with others in a stronger and more positive way.

Often Friend finds that people come to him with ideas and questions on life issues and do not realize that their problems stem from small underlying troubles. Easier things to change than the big problem that’s effecting them. It’s always hard to get the client to see…that the small changes, can make such a big effect on the big challenges in their life. But every time, they trust in Friend and do the homework, no matter how strange it seems at the time – a change does happen for the betterment of their life. Please do read about Friend and Francy and call in for a private phone reading on your own personal issues or business soon. Thank you, francy

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