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After 12 years of care giving for my dear Georgie…he passed. I am now living through the changes in my life, day by day. Since Georgie passed in the fall…I thought it wise to share some of my changes as I move towards his Passing Day, on November 1st. 

In a marriage of many years (ours was 32 years together) you move into a dual life. On one hand; I had my partner’s strength and love to carry me though my days. That subtle background strength that George gave to me with his unconditional love was so delicate and sweet. I was always aware of it, but I rarely took note of it. On the other hand; my own high energy gave me the feeling that I was a strong person. I think this is a very normal feeling since each of us experiences life, in the now, in our own minds. So when our partner, friend or family member passes there is an immediate grief…but an ongoing emptiness that overwhelms you depends on the amount of daily energy that person was gifting to you and you – to them.

Today, without George here for me to speak to…to share with…to touch, I feel that life’s current has changed for me. At first I felt the release of my loved one from my life, physically. Then I started to feel the change of my own life’s energy without George’s immediate spiritual presence and his own energy that was gifted with love to me each day. I know these feelings are basically the same for all…but individual levels of separation from the energy that a friend, family member or spouse has with us is unique. My relationship with George was much greater than I realized through the years, we were best friends, business partners, and loving spouses. So all of those connective tissues of life brought deep bonding. Each of those interactive relationships meant gifting energy to each other on different levels…friendship is not like business partner and a business partner is not like marriage partner…so for us…we were in a relationship that was energized on many levels.

You may find that you have lost a Grandma that lives quite far away from you. Your memories of her love and the times you spent with her gives you a hard rip in your heart over her loss. But if that person has not been a dominant part of your life on a consistent basis…the inner core of your daily life’s energy does not take on a huge change. The energy that runs your body, mind and soul on a daily basis is not deeply effected. That means that you, as a loving grand child will heal your grief and find a place for that special grandparent’s memory in your life in a shorter time frame. Yes, sadness will occur…but a feeling of continued grief for a long period of time will not hinder your life.

On the other hand, if your Grandmother has always been a guiding light in your life. If she was someone you grew up with, lived with and imprinted many life changing memories with there is a difference in your grief. The more a person is a daily impact of your inner being and gifts to you love and energy – energy that helps to run your body, mind and spirit…that energy keeps you moving inside your daily life routines. Therefore the more the removal of that person through death makes a mark on your own energy pattern. Does that mean that you loved one type of Grandparent more or less? NO. It means that your daily interactive relationship gives a stronger energy to your own core with one person compared to another.

This under-riding core of energy that each of us have in our lives is the essence of our own life spirit. It matters. To remove a source of this energy in our daily or occasional life pattern makes a big difference. It means that in order for you to stay feeling “safe” and “inline” with your life…you have to make up the difference in energy by producing more of it on your own. By personally increasing your core energy you will fill up the dip that the loss has left in your life. That is where I have been, learning how to adjust my own energy to get stronger within my own self.  George was such a constant supply of love and energy for me…that without him in my life I have had a big hole or drop in energy. This energy does not just mean our body energy, its our spirit energy too. It is now my job to increase my own energy and that takes healing and realizing who I am and walking forward into who I need to be to feel that safety again. It also takes daily routines that re-charge my energy just like exercise re-charges your body. I need to take personal responsibility to increase my own energy to work and live on the same or higher degree to be healthy in both mind and body. I am now aware of this and I am working on many different resources that increase energy for my own mental and healthy core. Not to mention to honor the love and life that George had given to me for all of those years of our joy filled partnership.

TIP: Removing yourself from others a few times a day. Perhaps when you take a bathroom break. Privately doing the ‘three deep breaths’ and taking note of the feeling of re-charging energy through our body and mind. Then remembering to eat small energy snacks of protein every two hours and taking note of reducing exposure to others that tend to drain our own energy…those are just a kick start to the process that Friend individually plans for us… to help re-build after a loss of a loved one. Slowly, our minds and bodies will come together in a stronger form. I know that I now feel the grief lifting and my energy building to stabilize my ability to stay attentive to my own needs. The feeling of being centered again is a relief for me, from the heaviness of my loss. 

Friend can be a steady force in the recovery from loss in your life. You may have lost a job, a home, a friend, a relationship or even a death of a dear person of importance. When that happens the time and actions to help the healing process are assisted by a consultation and re-charging and centering of energy. Friend has many different tasks for us to learn and incorporate in our lives so we can increase our personal energy and feel powerful again. We look forward to hearing from you and scheduling a consultation. Blessings, francy

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