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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering, information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy by francy Saunders

It may seem like setting our clocks back an hour is a hopeless way to welcome in spring…but in the long run…that extra sunshine comes along and we are so glad to have the extra time to enjoy it!

There are so many different issues around depression. From the simple down feelings after a long day to the heavy heart and mind over deep depression. What Friend has long shared with us is the importance of finding out what the ‘root’ cause is of those down feelings.

Saying you can ‘work your way’ out of depression, or take medications to relieve the deep dips of depression is easier said than done. There has to be another side to the personal search for a lighter heart and relief from the frustration of the dark obis of long term depression.

Friend does a reading with his clients and they talk about the reason for the depression in the first place. Finding the cause means that the treatment you choose to improve your depression becomes more successful. That cause can be a lot of very small events, or the constant pull from events that have been very big and hurtful in your life. This review and getting down to the beginning of pain and fear is the way that wise life-travelers find their lives have less stress.

This process of life review for those hurtful feelings and events, is in combination of knowing about your own body and what can be done to improve your inside health so the emotional health can take hold and find peace. This step is so important that if you want to schedule a session you can do that here.

The process of combining the emotional and the physical process of getting stronger and well is the key to being a person that finds joy back in their lives.

Here are some other keys to start you on that process of healing:

  • Do something so simple….DRINK water. If you are in stress and your body is producing stressful toxins, your job is to flush them out. If your days are filled with hours of high powered rushing and doing…you need to take time to drink and let those toxins flush out. Even if you can not halt the insanity of your job or your family chaos — you can drink water.
  • Add Vitamin D. Sunshine is not on the top of all of our lists. It takes time to go out the door and sit in the sun and takes time to relax. Not to mention, if your life in an area where the sun is not as high on the list as it is in California or Florida…you need to add Vitamin D to your intake. I started my husband George on 1,000 units of Vitamin D each day and after two months his emotional health was markedly improved. Even his Nurse Practioner noticed on his next visit. It is such an easy thing to do and inexpensive.
  • Breathe fresh air. Even if its on the way from your car park to the office building. Really do some deep breathing on your walk across the parking lot. Breath in with your nose and out with your mouth. Feel your chest fill up with the air and then allow it to slowly push out your mouth. That fresh oxygen will go to your brain; it will perk you up and get you started on your day with a calmer  feeling around you.
  • Take note of the longer days of light. Don’t just go home to a dark room and the TV. Take time to sit outside or stand in front of the door and drink in the sunshine. The light itself will really give you a boost. If you have a day of sunshine, go out to lunch…do a short walk and get as much of the sun as you can absorb. It will really uplift your spirits. If your days are marked with gray days or lots of rainy days…then make sure you turn on lights in your home…so you can feel the brightness.
  • If its a Kindle or a MP3 player take them along with you and allow your mind to have a fun book on the run. Even if it takes a couple of weeks to finish it…let yourself have a way to remove yourself from the pressure around you. Even if it’s for 10 minutes here and there…you will be thinking of a different story than your own life patterns.
  • Write a list of friends you have not connected with in ages. Then appoint a lunch time, each week, to make one call to a dear friend. Take a sandwich to your desk, or grab a few minutes while your kids nap…and make a call. Surprise that old friend and get caught up with their life and share your’s. That re-connect is so important to remind you – you have friends that love you. This allows you to get through a day with fellow employees, boss, or family members that do not seem to appreciate you.
  • Wear color in your wardrobe. If you are a guy, that tie is there to shake up your world…work it with a bright color. If you are a gal; buy that bright yellow hand bag and wear it with pride. Showing your color, means your heart is out there floating free…not caught up in grays, blues and black for days on end.
  • Walk your dog, or throw the ball around with your child. Interaction with those that you care for will fill you with joy. Thinking of other’s needs means you are not thinking of your own worries. You lift yourself up and spend an hour enjoying life.
  • STOP the sugar. You can do it. Remember sugar is in carbs. So that means that rice and white bread give you just as much sugar as a candy bar. Be honest with yourself. You need to remove that sugar so you stop the ups and downs in your behavior and sugar levels. Find snacks that are low in sugar and find fruits or veggies you can take with you to boost your energy without the crash from the sugar.

All of these things are easy to do, but they do take thinking ahead and being prepared to move through your day on a little different path. If you are thinking that depression is becoming a bigger issue in your life. Give some of these small changes a try to help relieve the pressure in your daily coming and goings.

Give the idea of working through personal issues that may be adding to your difficultly fighting the depression in your life. Healing the whole in your life is a process that can bring joy back. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could really enjoy your spring/summer…instead of just getting through it again, this year?

We hope to meet with you in session. Blessings, francy

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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering, information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

Daily Stress

 

Calming Moment

Moment to calm stress and see clearly

MJ during reading with Friend:

It seems like the daily stress is rising for me and I’m constantly worried about forgetting things. I have a calendar, a day planner; I put my reminders in my computer and phone. But I feel as if I am always behind. I’m running forever running to catch up.

Friend during a Channeling Reading:

This has become a very real problem with certain people and I do understand your dedication to your family, job and community…that shows you are trying to please and do well. As well as make changes for the good. But obviously if you can put your feelings in such a precise way saying; ‘always running’ then it has to be time to slow down and become more relaxed about your hours in the day.

Here are a few things you might try and see if it helps:

  1. Allow yourself to check for email three times a day only and to respond twice. You will see that when you set your pattern other people will adjust to it. They will know you do your mail at the beginning and end of day and that you only respond in the morning for the days issues. With the exception of high priority emails…you will simply know that there may be email in your inbox all the time…but you do go through and edit on a set schedule.
  2. Tell yourself that certain times are turn off phone and text times. Maybe for ½ of your lunch hour you go silent…and after 7PM you are silent. This means that others will soon learn your routine and respond in kind. Just because someone sends you a text or leaves you a message, does not mean you have to respond. Don’t allow yourself to respond to each message…respond when you have time and ignore the pull to have your fingers in movement at all times. For instance…when you are driving or shopping or at the library…you need and must have free quiet time so your mind can regroup.
  3. Take time, each time you go to the bathroom…to take deep breaths as you wash your hands and think of yourself as re-energizing yourself. This is like a mini meditation. It will keep you centered and allow messages from your own guides to filter through, as well as energy from those that you love.
  4. Journal each evening before you go to sleep…get quiet and just write things down…lists, to do’s, ideas, and prayers…just write for a few minutes. It will clear out your mind each evening so you can have a restful sleep. It will also allow your dreams to guide you with answers to your questions or worries.
  5. Stay sharp on your diet. If you are in a run, your food is running with you. This is one of the biggest mistakes people make in their thirties and forties…they begin to think food is unimportant and before they know it  their health starts to slip. That is really unwise thinking. Your body will not function well without the proper food. I don’t have to inform you on food, I know you know what is good for you or not. But I will remind you there is no excuse for not taking good food with you during the day. Get a good chill bag and pack it with the right snacks, filtered water, and supplements…so you can find that boost of energy when you feel down and out late in the afternoon.
  6. Finally, remember that you have to set rules for yourself before you set them for others. You have to say to yourself…’I’m important, what I do and say is important…so I am going to give my energy at a time and place that is good for me’. Feeling like others will judge you if you are not everything to everyone, is immature thinking – change it!
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Channeling Friend’s Daily Offering – information taken from Life Readings Channeled through Friend since 1983 and edited for privacy

ESCAPE Friend in phone reading with client: I understand you feel totally terrified. You have no money, no job, you have no place to live and you have left the relationship you thought would make you happy. So, just know I understand that every single step you have taken is scary and you have no other alternative but to make all of these changes. You are the brave one, you are the one to celebrate as FREE – you have chosen loving yourself over losing yourself – I am very pleased with your actions and proud of you.

  1. First, you have to find a place to live. I would march right up to the nearest church and ask them for their community outreach program to help you. Even if it is one night’s rest in the church, you will be able to sleep and get rest. They will help you, they are there to help you. Do not be afraid to ask for help, that is what people have been giving their Sunday collections toward. You will get a connection for emergency money for food and a place to live.
  2. There are special shelters for those that have fear from abuse, you need to ask about them and have someone take you there. Do not wander around where you can be seen – if you are in danger, ask others to help you out of danger.
  3. Then the next step is to go to the Department of Human Resources in your area and get bus passes, food coupons, and direction with job placement. They will give you a listing and ask them as many questions as you can. You will need to have a mail box for most of your information coming to you. I would ask at the church or the shelter if you can use that address for a month for a mail box – so you can get your help and then you will be in a new place to live and you can use your own address.
  4. Just stand in line and stand up straight and tell them your story as you know it to be true. There is nothing you have done to be ashamed of – you have just had things happen that now have to be corrected. The staff at these places are trained to help you, they may be over worked so be very patient and always smile and say thank you for your time. That is how you get helped before others, you show them you appreciate their care, not act like you deserve the help.
  5. Now the hardest thing is to begin to think of yourself as already in your new home, in your new job and in your new life. You have to sit and wait in lines at these places, so just rest and think about your future. What type of apartment you want to have around you. Picture the windows bringing in light, the paint all clean and the kitchen all bright. Picture nice furniture in the place with a special chair for you to use at night. Then picture a job place, busy, interesting, nice people to work along side of and the boss welcoming you into the job. Keep your mind focused on success even if all around you says failure – you have to think success.
  6. Force out the old negative bad thoughts, the worry over the past, the fear over the physical violence – everytime you catch yourself in worry – think about that new apartment, what color will you paint it, what kind of furniture will you fill it with and what will be in your cupboards or closets. Force your mind to think positive and fruitful thoughts…keep on the future, make your mind work in a way that will bring good things into your life, not repeat old ways of sadness.
  7. Think of three things that you are going to do for yourself when you get your job. A. buy a new purse, B. buy bananas just for you C. pick up a green plant at the store to enjoy. This is your life, what are your own three things to look forward to bringing into your life?
  8. Write down notes, take note of the names of people that help you and are kind, you can call them back if you get into a problem or have a question. Write down your personal information in a good easy to read printing. You do not want to have anyone skip over you because your form was not filled out.
  9. Remember, you are not at this point because you did any thing wrong, you are here because you are choosing a new life and that’s a good thing that has an element of excitement in it. Yes, it is scary, but Yes it is exciting. Keeping safe, if you need a shelter..you have to admit you are in trouble and you need a haven to be safe. Just as you would reach down and pick up a small kitten in the pathway of a large charging dog…so will others reach over and guide you to a shelter that is protected from anyone that wants to do you harm.

Your mind is your key…your mind, not your body. You have to think; I have a new job, I have a new home, I am safe and I am ready to begin this new life. No matter what you age, or how you look, or how you talk, you have to think NEW LIFE. You have to repeat it over and over and even when you are confronted with fear, you have to repeat it and believe it. Others will help you, but you have to ask. This is not the time to be the independent uppity lady who knows it all – this is the time, when you simply are honest about where you are and ask to be guided to places that can give you assistance.

To be brave enough to leave an uncomfortable place that still gave you a home, food and a place to belong – that was very hard to do. You have already taken those steps. The rest of your journey is just a journey. If you take it wisely, the journey will find an ending that gives you peace and your own life back again. No more living through another’s life…now you will have your own.

Now remember, do not allow yourself to think, I haven’t worked in a long time I don’t know what kind of a job I could get! NO, you have to think about how the job is going to make you feel…not what kind of job…how it will make you feel. I have a good job with a paycheck, I go to work with nice people, I stay busy and feel good about my work and I come home and can afford an apartment and food and I am safe. That is how you think about the job, not in terms of fear, but in terms of being content and happy to go to work, again!

Stop thinking about how you look, if you are to thin or too heavy, or have no clothes no one cares about those things but you. No one sees that but you, you have to force yourself to see your own loving body in a healthy light with new, clean clothing and know you are going to be health and well and serve your new life with joy, no fear. (End of shared reading)

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Friend’s Daily Offering is collected from Channeled Readings since 1983 and is edited for privacy.

Deep Worry Over Moneya condition that affects so many people in different ways that Friend wanted to share how he handles it on a one on one – this is totally different for each person that comes to him for a reading – the following is just a sample of one of his readings.

Client to Friend in Channeled Reading: I am overwhelmed with fear over money. I simply am stuck in the middle of so many different things that are affecting me that I find myself trapped in fear. I try to change my brain but I am thinking panic all the time and it is ruining my relationships and my whole life.

Friend to Client via phone Reading: I am so sorry you have this in your life. So, let’s talk a little about it. You have been a person in the past with a good income; I can feel that you have had a lot of prosperity, so I suppose this down turn has you confused.

Client to Friend: It does, you are right, I have had a good job all my life and now the work is simply not there. Plus, my wife’s health is not good and she has required a lot of time off from her work and our son is now in need of extra help financially and I am just not there for him at all.

Friend to Client: I understand that means that you are stuck in a place where you began to have lack and then it just got caught up in more and more. So, first, let’s talk about being brave enough to believe in a plan of action. What I will share sounds so benign that it could never help you…but I assure you it does help. So, I am going to ask you a favor and to follow these steps and just give it a try. After all, you are talking to me today because things are so bad you need guidance, so give this a chance.

Now we will begin. Fear is simply not allowed in your life, because it kills so many other emotions. You do understand that everyone has fear, but it has to be put down immediately in order for your life to flow. So fear is out. Now that sounds easy but before we talk about prosperity, we have to deal with this overwhelming fear issue right now to get it taken care of from this moment on.

  • The moment that you feel fear, just let it flow over you. Take note of what the source of the fear is at the time. You may automatically think its fear of not having enough to pay bills, so you ignore the bill pile. But it may be that you’re really fearful of telling your wife that money is at a very critical low and she has to understand that spending needs to be stopped not just reduced. What is your fear? You see, fear could be something totally different from what you think and to dissipate the fear, you have to know what it is that you are worried about to the point that brings feelings of fear.
  • Once the feeling of fear comes over you. How is it starting to form in your mind? Do you feel alone, do you want to hide the feelings; can you share your feelings? Many times people find that the feeling of fear is more the feeling of being totally alone facing a problem. That brings on the feeling of fear, so this is when you have to reach out and talk to your wife, or your best friend, sibling, parent or so on. The person you confide in to bring you a feeling that the worry you have is now voiced and out in public. Many times keeping problems to yourself, because you feel they will bother others, or bring embarrassment, will start the downturn of worry into fear and then make it worse and worse.
  • Facing the problem, talking about the problem is the way that you can take the fear down into small pieces to get rid of it or reduce it down to a place that you find it less stressful.
  • Dealing with the worse. I have many clients that come to me for reading in the middle of a crisis. They may have a spouse in hospital and they want to talk about how to deal with their health and get them through the crisis. They are often shocked when I ask them to spend a moment to think about what would happen if their spouse was suddenly gone. They do not want to talk about anything that depressing – they want to think of how to make the spouse well. I do not bring up the subject to depress them; I bring up the worse thought – to give it light. If you talk about the worse that could happen and get a feeling for it and roll it around in your mind. Then you can put those feelings away and re-direct your mind to the present and the healing of the spouse. The mind is now able to release the inner fear of the unknown and deal with the current emergency with a clear view.
  • I would like you to do some journaling. I know you are busy, tired and journaling may seem childish. I assure you it is not childish, it is how you figure out problems for yourself. Journaling is done in private; your thoughts are your own, so make this a private task. Get a spiral notebook and just sit down before you go to bed and write a few things down for me. I want you to do this for seven days. The mind and body have a rule of healing that is seven days to make a start, 21 days to change a habit, 84 days to change your health – so there is some work to do.
  • Write down each evening one page with three things that are the worst outcome to your current top three problems. Face it and write it down. You would lose all your money in your savings, you could lose your home, you could lose your job, and you could lose your marriage. Write down only three problems that would be the worst, then under each of those write down three things that you think would be the worst about those problems. If you lose all your savings you would probably lose your credit line and that would start another line of problems and so on. If you lose your marriage, you would have to move out and live on your own, not see your children as much, suffer from the loss of your friendship with your wife. You see how it goes, you face – not solve – just face the worst of your issues. The worst thoughts right on the paper…day after day.
  • New Journal Page each night: Three things that you want to do when the money comes back into your life – just three things each night. Maybe you will buy something, repair something, or go somewhere. But write three things down on a new page, each night.
  • New Page each night: Three things that you can do to bring in money from the universe that you are not doing now. Think about this. You cannot write down more work at work. No, you have to think of things to do to bring in money from any other source than you already have at your finger tips. You could write down something that you could sell on eBay, you could write down a service you could do for others, a small business that you could start, a second job you could do on the weekends, or any other way that money could come to you from the universe. The Universe meaning from any and all directions in any or all ways – without limits.
  • Now, one more thing. In a private place you need to write down a line of positive thinking that you can see during the day. Maybe put it on your computer screen or your bathroom mirror, or on your car dashboard, or the refrigerator. You need to write it down and you need to say it a minimum of three times a day – out loud…so, you can hear yourself saying the words: “I have an infinite abundance of love, money and health in my life and my needs are always met – I feel safe and I feel loved”

     

OK, that’s that for now. You have some thinking to do on this. Each night you have writing to do. Each day you have thoughts to review and change. You have your positive motivation to read and you have to trust in me. I know this is not giving you a check to walk out the door with or solving world peace. But you have to understand that it takes small movements to begin a big change. If you watch a bird, they will begin to just flap their wings and then they rise. This is just wing flapping I know, but trust me when you come back to me for your next reading in a week – we will both feel a change in your prosperity to the better. It may be tiny or it may be a big boost, but there will be a change and then we will take the next step.

Thank you for reading through this small edited version of a Reading with Friend. We would enjoy working with you, on your own private concerns please visit our pages about us and how to schedule an appointment with us. We do our appointments over the phone and talk about personal issues, business and spiritual questions. Thank you, francy

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Confusion – Friend’s Daily Offering; On removing Confusion on life choices and bring them into clarity
 
 There are so many words, actions, responsibilities and time constraints coming from all sides of your life, to add upset and confusion over an unexpected incident is totally understandable. Reacting to that incident is now your choice. You must learn to react to a negative situation slowly with calm, let it flow over you and let it unfold in front of you before you react. Keep your anger, fear or confusion to yourself and just let the energy of the situation surround you. Know that your own inner strength will keep you safe and allow the people around you to act out their frustrations or anger. As soon as you can, remove yourself from the situation.

Give yourself private time to replay the incident or situation in your mind as you lift yourself up and away from it. View it as if it were happening to another. See if you played a part in the incident or if you were just a viewer. Think it over; do not make a statement on your own behalf or for the other person. Think it over; replay the incident/situation again in your mind’s eye. See if you heard the words and actions in correct order. When you have done your work on this issue and you feel you have put it into its own place, then allow yourself to feel.

Is it anger, it is disappointment, is it sadness, is it doubt? Take a few moments of quiet and talk it through in your mind to yourself. Lay down the ideas you have – what did you do to begin the incident, did you add to the fire, did you simply stand and become a part of it, or did you get swept up in someone else’s negative energy? Now that you have gone over it in your mind – release it.

To do that-  take three deep breaths and then just blow out the confusion and let it dissipate. If the situation made you uncomfortable, you know you will not repeat the action you took nor will you encourage the actions that others showed to you. You will look at the incident as a negative action that you do not intend to allow around you again.

Make a list; actually write down three things that will alert you to the same behavior in yourself or others in the future. These three things will then be the keys to avoid. If you see them coming into your life again, you will walk away and make serious changes to remove the negative actions before they manifest into a repeated situation.

My example to you may be: 1/ your day was very stressed and you were down in energy 2/the communication between you and another was just not successful and you both interpreted words in the wrong way 3/the other person was on a short fuse of temper and you may have sparked it with your body language or words. Learning these or other actions that were taken before the incident, means you can make changes. Your personal energy must be stronger and if you need to take more breaks or eat, drink or nap than that is what you have to do during your busiest days. You have to work on your communications skills or learn to read others when they do not understand you and give it a break.  Be aware that others have days filled with just as much, if not more, stress than your own. Or they have a special emotional or physical challenge that is pushing them into negative energy.  Read those things and do not judge, just take note not to allow the combination of them to mix and explode into a situation in the future.

Since you are unable to change the past, or change others there is only the future and your own actions. If you took a neutral stance during the situation, you did not respond or entered into the negative energy – that was a strong position to take. You then removed yourself from the negative energy and have taken time to review the situation again in your mind. Showing self honesty of the review as if you were a neutral self-judge – you have pulled up and away and taken a look at your actions and those of others with a third person’s view. You have taken your deep breaths to release the confusion. You have written down three key things that will signal the oncoming of a similar incident in the future and how to avoid it. Now, you have to do the hardest thing, you have to refocus your mind to a new thought pattern and let this one fade. In order to be productive, you have to learn to experience, review and release. It’s now time to release and move on leaving the negative energy and feelings of confusion behind.

This is a lesson that is very hard to do and really takes repeated practice to perfect. But once you start to do this with little and large incidents that upset and confuse you in your life – you will see that they will not be repeated. They will diminish because you take note of the cause and then you empower yourself to move forward to a new thought and action so your future is in your own control.

To achieve a circle of comfort and positive actions around you at all times is something that has to be practiced to succeed. But once you have the steps in place and you have experienced the change of negative to positive thought patterns – you will find your life changing dramatically.  

The easy life choice is to react to a negative situation or person with your verbal skills and debate and argue with them. To inflame the situation and make your own thoughts on the matter the most important heard that day. To walk away knowing you were right  – and they – wrong.

The hard life choice is to restrain yourself from reacting, to make your involvement nonexistent and allow the incident to work its way out to nothing. Being a controlled student of metaphysics is always challenging are you up to the challenge? Do you really think you can walk and experience the path, or just talk about it?

The most successful people in all walks of their lives are the ones that are true to their own actions and not afraid to review and change those actions and their forward direction for the better of all. 

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