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fall-wallpaper-20.jpgDear Friend: Everyone talks about their “life’s plan” and I do not know how to find my plan. What do I do to connect with the information to guide me to my real life’s journey?

This is the most popular question with those that come and have consultations with Friend. It is so important to individuals and that makes Friend happy. Happy that they are able to be aware and reach out and work to find the answer.

Each consultation is very private and unique for each student…but what you will find is the way to begin your journey is to connect. To learn simple tips to get yourself quiet and relaxed so your inner voices can be heard. If you are living a path, at this time, that is filled with chaos, upset, discourse or illness the back ground noise of your life is very high.

Very similar to getting a mobile call and having a hard time hearing your friend. Then you ask them…are you using the speaker? Then they change over to private call mode and the call comes in crystal clear. Removing the background noise of your life opens up your ability to hear and pay attention to the guidance that we all receive during our day.

So, let’s review a few examples of the feeling of being guided. First example is early morning rush. Up and arranging life within your home. Maybe over-sleeping to start, or preparing children for their day before you get to prepare yourself. It’s a morning of rush and hurry…a morning of trying to make the world work when you are just waking and hitting the floor. Out you go to the car, kids in the back seat and ready to drive out of the garage. But a feeling of something comes over you…a tap on your shoulder or a ding in your mind that something is not right. No time for inner conversations you pull out of the garage and take off to the school. Then arriving at work, you realize that you were to bring in a report that you had worked on a year ago…and was needed for review on a current project. You kick yourself remembering the feeling or pull…that you had gotten that morning and you ignored it.

That is an example of your inner voice trying to help you…but you were too involved with your life to “hear” the voice. You were not willing to take a moment and review your possible needs for the day when you were sitting there in the car…you just went with your immediate need to be on time and get your day going.

Another example; you are at a party and you meet a person for the first time. You shake their hand, or smile and nod in their direction and go on with a conversation that you are involved in at the moment. Something pulls you about that person, in the back of your mind.  Something is in there for just a moment; have I met them before, do they know someone I know, do they have something in common with me…its just a floating feeling. It comes and goes in an instant. You do not take time to talk to the person and ask them about their day or their life, you continue on with your conversations with friends. A week later, you hear that a new person is coming to be your manager at work. This person is of pivotal importance to your success and you wonder how the change in the management will affect you. The day comes when the new manager walks in the room…and you recognize them from that party you went to weeks before. You kick yourself for not interacting with her when the acquaintance could have been very social and enjoyable, showing your personality in a good and strong light at a party. Now, you will wonder if she felt you snubbed her and if she is in a position of judging you before you even begin your work relationship.

Last example; your child has just displayed some really angry behavior and you are tired and over-stressed from your day. Instead of taking time and talking to your child about how that behavior hurt the feelings of one of their friends…you choose to simply give the child a quick look of dread and ask them to go to their room to cool down. A few days later,  you get a call from the child’s teacher leaving a message on your phone. Your child has displayed unkind and angry behavior at school and you are being asked to come and get your child and have a meeting with the school counselor. You instantly remember that you had not followed through with your child’s angry behavior a few days before and you know that lead to this unfortunate outcome. The inner voices, are they really not there or are you ignoring them?

Listening to your own inner voices…those voices that guide you and help you make life decisions that push you on to a path of action that is healthy, prosperous and enjoyable – those are the voices that you need to learn to listen to and be open to their wisdom. Trusting in your own abilities to find the right path in your life…starts with you listening. When you work with Friend, he gives you ideas and practices that bring you back into alignment with a life that is in-focus and intune…instead of a life that is always fighting against the tide.

Tip: Before your feet hit the ground in the morning…take three extreme deep breaths. In with the noise until your stomach rises and out with the mouth. This clears your brain and refreshes it with oxygen so you begin your day with a moment of calm to hear your inner voice and begin with a clear view of the day ahead.

We look forward to working with you in your own private consultation. Friend, works with you on your life challenges and your life questions. Blessings on your day…francy

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